Ryan Adams
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some bs about being stressed she said sorry. how should I respond?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
so the chick that ghosted me hit me back up...
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Igetit!
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This the same chick who had all sorts of family problems,with a brother or some other relative in jail,who you kept going on and on and on about?
The one you wasted money buying tickets for?
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First off, there is nothing in that text except bread crumbs but I am sure you are just dying to dive right back in to convo with her. What is there to respond to? So she started fvcking a new guy, he pumped and dumped her so she is coming back to you for a mental stimulation to get her confidence back. Nothing more.
What is there to respond to? Its not like she said "Hey I am really sorry blah blah...lets get together tomorrow night and I will make it up to you". She gave you a tiny crumb to see if you are still starving to death or not.
There is nothing there in her text that deserves a response. She is basically saying "Hey I ghosted you...why dont you respond to this text so I can suck you in and do it again!".
NO response is the best response. If for some reason she is giving it a second thought to see you (and lord have mercy if she comes back after how beta you acted around her) she WILL message you again. If she does, you have to play it cool. DO NOT show any major signs of interest and IT IS UP TO HER TO APPROACH YOU ABOUT GETTING TOGETHER. You do not even mention it and I would only give her one or two word responses and wait an hour or so between responses.
Ryan Adams
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she texted me last night. saying she has have had terrible family issues and I dont know how to open up I get anxiety when someone gets close to me. this was last night I still havent responded. i know yall are gonna think I'm being nieve but there isnt another dude in the picture trust me on this. she just is an insecure immature girl who cannot be upfront about anything when it comes to saying no. I dont think I will say anything for a few days... I just dont wanna go down that road with her again as you can see by my beta posts about her. I gotta soft spot for her and I cant get in the right frame of mind when kn around her to act like a suave player
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Ryan Adams
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dude trust me there is no dude in the picture like that. I know it sounds dumb but there isnt any dude in the picture right now
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You're crazy naive. She was definitely seeing another dude. Stop making excuses for some c*nt that ghosted you. You really dont get it.
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And you know this how?
Oh yeah.....she told you that. And of course you believe her since she ghosted you.
Clueless..........
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Thank her for reaching out but you are busy and would like to see her ..... but make her come to your place. If she won't then just brush her off. Then delete her number and call another chick.
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no she didnt tell me that. but I know her roommate. I know it sounds stupid but no dude is in the picture right now
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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You're right it does sound stupid. Given you are sucked into this ghosting bish like a terd going down a drain its probably best for you to delete and block her number. You cant see the forest through the trees on this one.
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she isnt worth time. I foresee bad things in the future if I go down this road again
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Do you realize that woman cover for each other?
And if you are that close to the roommate, why didnt she get the concert tickets back to you with ease?
Your stories dont add up.
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I'm not close but my friend knows the roommate and the other day I gotta little scoop on it why would she even hide being with another dude? if I found out she was with another dude it would be better then being ghosted and I would be over it.
whatever it is what is I'm not gon a harp on this anymore I'm wasting my time. I just need to find another woman who doesnt pull little childish sh!t like this. I'd rather her be like look this isbt gonna work out then be sitting here with my thumb up my ass wondering.
whatever it is what is I'm not gon a harp on this anymore I'm wasting my time. I just need to find another woman who doesnt pull little childish sh!t like this. I'd rather her be like look this isbt gonna work out then be sitting here with my thumb up my ass wondering.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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You said you knew the roommate. Now your friend knows the roommate. You gotta a little scoop of being jerked around and nothing about what really happened. And she was hiding the other dude because she probably saw that you werent all there when you creeped her out and its easier to ghost you than to waste her time explaining that she isnt interested just to have you continually ask her "why".
She didnt pull childish shyte.....you did by the way you over texted her, went on a relationship hunt, bought a vacation (wtf?) for a chick you werent even banging, etc. Hell if a chick did that to me I would run as fast as I could. She did what any normal chick would do IMO. She didnt owe you anything and could ghost you at any minute, which she did.
The only thing you've been right about is that your wasting your time with this one.
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lol I never blew her phone up or did anything to creep her out. I've seen her scared to walk Infront of a hairsalon to a appointment she accidentally missed because she woke up late shes just terrible with confrontation. and I was going on the vacay regardless and she was begging to go....
To avoid any confrontation. Just look how crazy some guys go after being rejected.
Ghosting sucks but it's the safest way of ending things with someone.
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Yes you did. You posted the text messages. Double texting, telling her all about your day, out of the blue telling her about having sex with your ex gf on a boat....total creeper dude. And she begged you to go on the vacation? Not hardly. She ghosted you and you whined on that thread about how she had the nerve to ghost you and left you holding the bag on that vacation.
Do you I need to find it for you?
You have issues my man. Its a vicious circle. You get a chick interest, blow them up and creep them out, they ghost you, you blow them up, then you make excuses for how they behaved. Do you not get it???
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http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/how-to-deal-with-being-ghosted.248407/
I will just leave this here. Sounds like she was really dying to go on that trip with you.
Lets put liar up there with your credentials of creep and sociopath. Well fitting.
I will just leave this here. Sounds like she was really dying to go on that trip with you.
Lets put liar up there with your credentials of creep and sociopath. Well fitting.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.