So Suave, So Savage

[Macaframalama]

9/10 times if you never had a chance, you never had a chance no matter what you did. This statement speaks in extremes, because it takes extremes in these circumstances. A woman can think you are a total fvcking babe, until you come off as a total dooshbag and vice versa, at first glance a woman can see a total dweeb, until he jumps up out the car and acting in a way that screams he gives zero fvcks. To top it off, you will feel infinitely more satisfied saying whatever the fvck it was on your mind in the first place. Example, just walked out of the beer store, left my store conversation with a **** eating grin, which was mirrored back by a woman that I went to school with, but graduated two years my elder. High society, always considered a notch, kept in yoga shape all these years, never broke eye contact and replied "looking sharp". Guess who just sent me a friend request?.?. Yea, her 19 years younger daughter, with a tighter ass and looser morals. And to think it didn't cost me ****, other than a pair of wide shoulders, swinging nuts and saying the fvck whatever came to my mind. Break the structure, break the mold, be you! There is no secret men. There are things that work better, than others and there are things that impare considered impossible, until the right mf'r comes along and debunks previous assumptions. Moral of the story... Grab your fvcking balls, feel them and do whatever the fvck it is you want in any given moment. It's what makes you a man.

 

[Macaframalama]

Agree 100%

Even in relationships, more often than not, you never really had a chance if you had ambitious goals for the relationship.

Bro, the older I get, the more I've caught myself trying to conform to what was expected of me, the more I just look up at the hole I'm digging for myself. For example, I personally love the N.W.A straight out of compton album, as well as earlier Metallica and Megadeath. GnR, Alice in chains, Nirvana, ghostman, Pimp C, etc and felt a need to just stop binge drinking, partying and chasing pvssy altogether... I felt a drive to push that away just because I I'm getting older. No!!! That doesn't change just because I am. Just because I'm getting older, that doesn't mean the world conforms around me and things are just going to get any easier. The world doesn't revolve around the individual, which I still think is a proper mindset to keep. That a man thinks the world revolves around him. If he can't believe in himself, who can? But I still think a man needs a heavy dose of reality that the world doesn't revolve around him too. These are fvcking man-made restraints bro.

 

[Macaframalama]

I think two things are true that seem contradictory:

1. If things aren't working, you need to adapt(macro level)

2. Adapt all you want, nothing guarantees things will work(micro level)

Or 3... A mfr is so in the moment/zone that he gives zero chits and every action is in the moment.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Break the structure, break the mold, be you! There is no secret men. There are things that work better, than others and there are things that impare considered impossible, until the right mf'r comes along and debunks previous assumptions.

That is why Pook said about it being a ‘natural’ process. Because it is, you shouldn’t have to think about it. Just do it.

 

[btownbuck2012]

9/10 times if you never had a chance, you never had a chance no matter what you did. This statement speaks in extremes, because it takes extremes in these circumstances. A woman can think you are a total fvcking babe, until you come off as a total dooshbag and vice versa, at first glance a woman can see a total dweeb, until he jumps up out the car and acting in a way that screams he gives zero fvcks. To top it off, you will feel infinitely more satisfied saying whatever the fvck it was on your mind in the first place. Example, just walked out of the beer store, left my store conversation with a **** eating grin, which was mirrored back by a woman that I went to school with, but graduated two years my elder. High society, always considered a notch, kept in yoga shape all these years, never broke eye contact and replied "looking sharp". Guess who just sent me a friend request?.?. Yea, her 19 years younger daughter, with a tighter ass and looser morals. And to think it didn't cost me ****, other than a pair of wide shoulders, swinging nuts and saying the fvck whatever came to my mind. Break the structure, break the mold, be you! There is no secret men. There are things that work better, than others and there are things that impare considered impossible, until the right mf'r comes along and debunks previous assumptions. Moral of the story... Grab your fvcking balls, feel them and do whatever the fvck it is you want in any given moment. It's what makes you a man.

It's frame control. It's sucking other people into your reality just by the sheer intensity of how comfortable you are w/ yourself.

I remember when I first started cold approaching I would go to the mall nervous as hell. It would usually take 5-10 harsh rejections before I started getting this invincible feeling. I swear to god it was like feeling drunk w/o drinking. My real progress happened in this state, in that frame. It's got nothing to do w/ looks, status or any of that b.s.

Average looking/ugly guys who pull hot ass are simply sucking other people into their frame. They don't care what other people think and are unbelievably comfortable in any crowd or around any person. Yareally's posts on this very thing are archived here: http://yareallyarchive.com/2012/4/#comment-heartiste-334115

 

[Macaframalama]

It's frame control. It's sucking other people into your reality just by the sheer intensity of how comfortable you are w/ yourself.

I remember when I first started cold approaching I would go to the mall nervous as hell. It would usually take 5-10 harsh rejections before I started getting this invincible feeling. I swear to god it was like feeling drunk w/o drinking. My real progress happened in this state, in that frame. It's got nothing to do w/ looks, status or any of that b.s.

Average looking/ugly guys who pull hot ass are simply sucking other people into their frame. They don't care what other people think and are unbelievably comfortable in any crowd or around any person. Yareally's posts on this very thing are archived here: http://yareallyarchive.com/2012/4/#comment-heartiste-334115

Yes, I just got a tipper. Didn't know what that was previously, but I wasn't going to argue with a ******* through my shorts.

That is why Pook said about it being a ‘natural’ process. Because it is, you shouldn’t have to think about it. Just do it.

Do you listen to much thrash trash metal?

 

[Macaframalama]

About the only thing they've ever had worth a **** but it's brutal none the less

 

[Macaframalama]

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Do you listen to much thrash trash metal?

Actually I listen to EDM for the most part.

 

[fastlife]

Totally agree—but at some point you also have to calibrate.

There’s your frame—and then there’s awareness about how other people feel within that frame. The two aren’t mutually exclusive. It’s OK to stick to your guns at the expense of rubbing some people the wrong way, but at the same time it’s usually possible to have enough flexibility within your frame to make the other person feel good about it.

There are pretty much 4 types of rejection:
1.) Her emotions/circumstances at the moment make any approach impossible.
2.) Inauthentic rejection—you reject yourself by not approaching, not displaying your personality, not putting your personality on the line.
3.) Authentic Rejection—You put your personality on the line & she rejects you for who you are.
4.) Failure to be relatable—You are authentic but not relatable. You don’t give her a rock to cling to within your world; you don’t qualify her as a part of that world.

1 is unavoidable. 2 feels the worst. 3 feels good, because even if you get rejected, you expressed yourself. 4 is correctable via calibration. But since 3 feels better than 2 a lot of guys get carried away and venture into 4. And ya it feels cool not to GAF, but if you have to give a little bit of a fvck at some point if you want to achieve the desired outcome.

 

[zekko]

I have mixed emotions whenever I hear the "IDGAF/Give zero fvcks" advice. I always think that it sounds like you are saying that you should never care about anyone or anything.

I think - I hope - that what people are trying to say is to be true and authentic to yourself, and to say what you want to say instead of trying to please others, and not to be outcome dependent.