"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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So sick of flaking b!tches

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I made plans to meet up with this girl at 9:30 tonight and at the last minute she tells me she can't make it. I'm so sick of these flakey b!tches. I didn't care if I went out tonight, but making plans with her required me to somewhat rearrange my whole evening. It seems like over half of the girls I've made plans with lately have flaked out at the last minute.

I don't remember having so many flakes ever. Are women getting flakier and more hypergamous by the day and month?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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i hear ya man. i got flaked on twice in the past 2 weeks. ive got plans with another girl this monday and if she doesnt show up i think im gonna punch the next girl i see.
 

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Stress is caused by giving a f u c k

Dont.


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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Purefilth said:
Stress is caused by giving a f u c k

Dont.


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Of course I give a f u c k that I had to rearrange things and got all ready and the b!tch canceled at the very last minute. I made the plans with her around 5 pm and she was all giddy about meeting and cancel around 9.

I mean if I was 23 or so and could look good without a shower and shave before going out, and had the energy none of the responsibilities and didn't need to leave what i was doing and take a power nap and get ready, it'd be a little different.

Not to mention whatever time I spent securing the date. Of course I give a f u c k that women waste my time and apparently more often than not they can't keep solid plans for a couple hours that they seemed happy about.

I don't know where women think they have the prerogative to make plans and cancel them constantly but that's part of the sh!t us men have to deal with.

The only way I could truely not care is to drop out of the dating game all together and not ever have my time wasted again.

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Flaking is off the charts. I'm closing in on 100% flake rate lately. Would be so much better just to get a clear no. But *****es will string you along. Read Harry W.'s recent post:
I'm starting to wonder if this isn't the new dating advice/trend for women. I've been noticing it has been harder to get girls to meet up at pubs for a first meeting or late at night. And this flaking sh!t is happening 2-3x as often lately as it use to for me. Sh!t I remember the other day clicking on an MSN "dating" link that turned out to be dating advice for women and some d!ckweed dating coach advised women to not meet late at night or at bars.
 

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I always text girls "Want to confirm, are you still good for tonight? at least 3 hours before so they have an opportunity to get out while they can. If they say yes and then they cancel, they look even worse.

But honestly bro, you rearranged your whole night and are getting this worked up over a girl who my be sleeping with 4 guys at the same time while taking their money and feeding her ego to boot? How are you going to handle a relationship when the girl starts playing head games?

You got to be like a rock, nothing should bother you unless its physical or damages your name.
 

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Trump said:
I always text girls "Want to confirm, are you still good for tonight? at least 3 hours before so they have an opportunity to get out while they can. If they say yes and then they cancel, they look even worse.

I don't think telling them to confirm is a wise idea.. you don't want to GIVE them a chance to flake like that.
 

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Malice said:
I don't think telling them to confirm is a wise idea.. you don't want to GIVE them a chance to flake like that.
Right confirming is a bad or worthless move in my opinion. They almost always flake at the last minute so what would confirming do? They'll confirm hours beforehand and still flake a the last minute.

I made plans with this girl at 5p to meet at 9:30p. She falked at 9. As a matter of fact every one of the last 3 or 4 flakes I've had in a row expressed enthusiastically that they were still on a few hours before the date only to flake when the meeting time was drawing near.
 

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Stagger Lee said:
Right confirming is a bad or worthless move in my opinion. They almost always flake at the last minute so what would confirming do? They'll confirm hours beforehand and still flake a the last minute.

I made plans with this girl at 5p to meet at 9:30p. She falked at 9. As a matter of fact every one of the last 3 or 4 flakes I've had in a row expressed enthusiastically that they were still on a few hours before the date only to flake when the meeting time was drawing near.

Only thing you can do is schedule several dates at around the same time. Are these chics off POF?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Stagger I hear you man, you say nothing new, probably some ego masturbation for modern girls.

The best solution I came with its chosing to meet in a place where Im agoing anyway, like a certain club where I got hunt for ***** so I dont lose any if she doesnt come, Im dressed anyway....or straight at your place.

Usually I do my place in day time and some club in night time.

If they complain about such choices I make it clear that they are not yet granted the necessary credit to move me out of my way, somehow they like to be insulted this way.
 

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i bet you dont get many flakes with fat b1tches. bottom line, competition for sexually desirable ho's will always be high so, flake rates will always be high.

just gotta learn to embrace that sh!t.
 

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Stagger Lee said:
I don't remember having so many flakes ever. Are women getting flakier and more hypergamous by the day and month?
Either that or your not the guy women are looking for, welcome to the club bro I use to be the guy that women would meet and flake on guys like you, now im on your side
 

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Just flip the script and run the same game that females run on guys. Females will make plans with 2 guys for the same night. If guy #1 doesn't flake on her then she flakes on the other guy. If guy # 1 flakes on her then she uses the other guy as back up to get a free meal and attention.
I run similiar game. I will arrange dates with two women an hour apart from each other at places nearby to each other . If one flakes on me or the date is wack I can still hookup with the other one. The more options you have, the more power you have in the dating world. That's why women can treat men like **** because they have a line of guys trying to get with them. You need to have a line of women trying to get with you!
 

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Purefilth said:
Stress is caused by giving a f u c k

Dont.


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This is the best thing I seen on this board since I been here. He summed it up in one phrase.


So what if she blew you off, either delete her number or get back at her a month from now, and don't respond to her calls or text.

Women are going to flake as long as your in the game, just keep it moving and charge it to the games, don't waste energy trying to be bitter or get revenge either.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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op, you're right.

Something is going on as of late with the flakyness factor.

For me it started around June of this year.
 

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pdx1138 said:
op, you're right.

Something is going on as of late with the flakyness factor.

For me it started around June of this year.
I honestly think it might be a new trend or fad, seriously. I remember about 10 years ago EVERY guy was a "stalker", before that every guy was a nerd, about 5 years ago every guy was a creeper (that one is still going on) and now the new trend is probably every guy that wants to meet at a pub at night is a player, FLAKE!

The other woman that flaked on me this past weekend, who I thought didn't even drink told me, "my AA friend told me it wouldn't be a good idea to meet at a bar".

Probably some idiot recently started the advise every female to flake fad. I mentioned the MSN dating article telling women to not meet men at night or at bars. I know women always tended to flake sometimes, but the rate I'm seeing flakes recently is insanely high.

There might be other factors too, all the unemployed men with nothing to do but game women, all the returning war vets, PUA has been mainstream for awhile etc.

But seriously I think girls are on a fad now telling each other to flake on plans. Women always mention to some other female they know that they are about to meet up with a guy, and I bet they are all telling and encourage each other to flake.

There are so many ****blockers behind the scenes it's crazy.
 

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Flaking is also part of “fabulous mess” syndrome so popular with urban women and fags.

See clips from the British TV show “Absolutely Fabulous” for the perfect example. I’ve known many gays who actually emulate that sort of behavior because they associate it with this kind of fabulous celebrity mess personality that probably goes back to Warhol and the Studio 54 era, when it started to be publicly “cool” to be a drunk, drugged out self-destructive – but fashionable – mess.
 

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im gonna start a new tv show called "Flakes".
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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