"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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So she's recently divorced...

Tmed09

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I have been wanting to date this girl I work with for some time. She's just been recently divorced and so we start dating. All has been going great! Then she went to her family's for a function. And her ex was there. Apparently her father invited him.
She was upset and so was I but I didn't show it. She texts me for a few days and then I recieved a text yesterday that stated she was very upset in dealing with everything. She said she wanted to focus on herself. I haven't been texting her every waking moment, calling every second, etc.
I've been divorced and I understand what she is going thru. Knowing what you know from this post..do you think I need to back off totally, back off but send occasional texts from time to time or find someone else to date?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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expos

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Hmm - check out this thread that MattC posted a few days ago:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=220352

He just married a divorced woman and is dealing with some issues there, and they didn't have kids.

I think you should back off. But first, how old are you? If you are in your mid-20's, I would wonder why you would want a woman with baggage when there are plenty around that age who don't.
 

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I'm 27. I hear what you're saying. IVe wanted to date her for years.
 

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i'd say her interest in waning, recent divorce or not. I am currently dating a recently divorced woman (something I never thought I would find myself doing). She always makes plans to see me, cooks me food, rubs my back, sex on demand etc. Point being, there is extra baggage with divorce, but if she is interested she will NOT confuse you. Just like any other woman.
 

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I've went thru so many bad dating experiences over the years..it was good to finally meet someone that was not totally incompatible. I suppose I got my hopes up.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Why did she get divorced? Divorce is common now so there should be no problems unless she has kids. She might be thinking of going back to her loser hubby, that's why she's giving you the cold shoulder. My advice is lay off and go ghost. Spin plates. I don't think it will end well for you if you get with her but that's my hunch.
 
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