So she showed High IL, you AFC, she runs, You ignore her, Now she's back, Now What?

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reset, You felt like you wanted to die a few months later cause she broke it off? (It wasn't clear).

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The girl in OP is native Japnese, cited cultural differences, and said how she finds it strange and different I think this way. In her culture, "guys go after girls for a long time." and "Gains their trust, followed with feelings."

I'm not going to buy it, I'm telling myself Girls are Girls, and the rules of attraction should pretty much be the same.

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I've been 'trying' to work on my inner game for years while struggling with depression, and have been dating no one for years. Then she comes by and sparks interest, of course I end up one-itis her because I had no one else.

BUT yeah, as hard as it is though, now I'm not getting the phone and decided to walk away. It's like she would be satisfying a hole in my life, which should never be there in the first place.

The drawback is, Working on InnerGame seems like it's going to take so much time. And a complete permanent change in attitude seems like it will take every muster of energy and dedication to pull through. Wish me luck

 

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What do her other boyfriends act like? How many guys is she friends with as compared to girls?

In any case, it's about what you want.

 

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She's a waitress, she says she doesn't have guys that call her except once in awhile to get lunch, and has told me she is not seeing anyone else.

Lots more close girl friends than guy friends.

In terms of looks, she's not hot, she's alright. She's a little bit better than what I would consider myself as a guy, but has great personality to match. I was looking for a long term.