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[cA^]

yo guys, met this girl at school (year 11 n 12, about 650 ppl go) and got chatting etc. used c&f, kino, the works. anyway I saw her on monday and gave her my number, she missed her bus cause she was talking to me at the end of the day lol! and as soon as she got home sent me a msg, and ended up msging me about 8 times that night, so shes keen.

today she msgd me asking what i was up to, and i said id hang out with her at lunch, she said she cant cause she was going for a drive so i said oh k cool, she ended up meeting me in the library after lunch, but i said i had to study for a test, anyway before she came up she msgd me asking if it was ok for her to come and see me = good signs.

now the problem, she has mentioned her ex bf a few times. was asking her on friday when i met her what shes doing for the weekend, said something about going to a town and staying at a friends house who was friends with 'michael', whos michael i said, "my ex-bf since 1 and 1/2 weeks ago" she says.

ok so i was chatting to her today, she gives me awesome e/c, have kino'd with her awesome, anyway i asked her what she was doing on the easter break, she said blah blah not alot, "going camping with michael and his friends" whos michael i asked again cause id forgotten, she goes "my ex - bf".

so why would she be mentioning him? to show that shes free cause she refers to him as her 'ex'? cause her interest levels are like, the highest of any girl i've met before so im feeling pretty weird about it all

need some help guys, cheers.

 

[cA^]

would be cool if i can get some advice / feedback before tomorrow. i sent her a msg asking her what she was doing tomorrow at lunch and she said "blahblah, hope 2 c u though"

but i'd like to know about why she is mentioning her ex bf !

 

[DonMEgaHoss]

If she just broke up with him a week or two ago could just be looking for a rebound to get back a her old bf. Looks shady to me well I dont really know that much info. on the situation. ( Like if she broke up with the dude or what)

 

[cA^]

Yea i know what your saying Donmegahoss.

Tomorrow is the last day of school until the 25th, and she is meant to be going camping with her ex later on in the holidays (round the 20th i guess).

Is there something I should say to her tomorrow to see if she is interested, and wont go camping with him and her friends?

been a long day, women = >_< !

 

[DonMEgaHoss]

Another thing I just noticed after coming back to the computer is dont ask her whats she's doing or asking if she is interested in getting grubbage with you... say something along the lines of " Hey, Im going to go get some food you can come also." Maybe throw a c+f at the end. well thats just me.

This girl seems to occupie a great deal of your thoughts... be vewy vewy careful... as elmer fudd would say.. or AFCness will come get you.

Also there is a post by Wyldfire about why women mention other guys.

She could be qualifing herself as to show you that she is desireable by telling you about them.. But if shes like " yayay yada yada, my old bf was great/ or something along those lines whatever you get chick speak.

Than she's not really interested in you only to boost her ego by adding another chump to the friends list... her endless power supply

 

[cA^]

oh man, i needed to read something like this before i left

thanks guys!

..Be that prize, and GO GET WHAT YOU DESERVE!

 

[flexion_]

Women who talk about other men (ie. ex-BFs) in front of you aren't that interested in you. Sometimes they may pull a jealuousy card but not when you first meet them. Sorry, sounds like a waste of time with this one at the moment.

 

[cA^]

eh weird -_-

she was testing me out with all questions but i avoided most of them and gave c&f, I did as Shezz said and talked about US, but not in an obvious way oh and I also met her mother and gave her a handshake, so I guess that earns me points ?

thing is she was telling me about herself, she smokes :thumbsdown: now my father smokes but yea, I dunno, I find it a big turnoff when girls my age (17/18) smoke. eh who knows.

also when we were waiting up the top near the bus stop for her mum, I was talking n whatnot n held her hand n then she kinda looked at me and looked at her hand and then pulled away lol so yea no good, however I think i'm getting mixed signals, cause when she pulled away her body language was still good towards me, and I just used some c&f, and when her mum came she still had great body language towards me, great ec and everything i've mentioned before.

I mentioned we will meet up in the holidays and she said yea for sure, and when she was going she says 'see you next week' so yea, shes keen.

anyway when she started saying about camping, she goes 'my ex bf will be there' and I said yea, ima going too, gunna b great! and shes like but my ex will be there, and im like yea im so looking forward to camping

but yea shes msging me alot tonight, so i'm kinda confused by the mixed signals she is giving me (great interest level, great kino but mentions the bf and pullls her hand away whilst still maintaining good body language)

oh and I had a bio test today which I think I passed and...

Red Hot Chili Peppers - Dani California (NEW High Quality) (128kbps/44kHz/stereo)

kicks ass!

 

[cA^]

update:

well last night we were txting and she sends me a msg:

"... sorry about pulling my hand away this afternoon ..."

I didnt say anything back, just talked about her other question that she asked me before she sent me that msg.

then she sent me one back saying some stuff and "... u ignored my last msg...
lets make it soon what ever do! i'll miss u! "

so my confusion is, these msgs, the great interest levels (great ec, body language etc.) shes keen to meet up in the 1 1/2 week break we have off, however shes possibly still going camping with her ex bf.

what do I do

 

[ProtoMan1]

Ask her out.

 

[MaverickBow]

It depends on how her and her ex split - she may be trying to get back with him but keeping you as a backup in case it fails. But hey, its obvious she really likes you so as Protoman1 said - Just ask her out

 

[MaverickBow]

Sezz, I only meant it as a possible reason for the mixed signals I didn't actually want cA to commit virtual suicide by talking to her about it, but I forgot to mention that bit - thanks for noticing.

 

[cA^]

thanks for the replys guys!!

I will meet up with her next week where we will have some fun and i'll take her on an action date

Thanks for the lieing game, I may even use that next week!!

Shezz, I sent a pm to you about the bf destroying material...

I will keep you guys informed on how everything goes...!

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