"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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so she flaked

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i went out with with this hb9 last week and things seemed to go well with her after 1 date. we kissed and she said she couldnt wait to see me again.and was really feelin me. then she flaked on me. didnt really talk since date.she never hit me up, and after sending her a couple texts i stopped tryin. she would reply back but with a disintrest kind of way. should i send her a message on facebook sayin,

i can take a hint, it was still nice meeting you, good luck in future


or should i just never say **** again

i half feel if i send her it she will reply sayin oh i was just busy. i still want to see you

i texted her a couple days back and she said she was in a minor car accident and was busy. but i know if she was tryin to talk and was big on the kid, she would have made time.

any thoughts? im ready to just cut losses and never look back, but should i send message or say nuthin
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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J Roc

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if the date was as good as you say it was she would be trying to hook up with you again. a man with options would be too busy with other women to be worried about a woman with low interest in him. dont contact her again.
 

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yea, but u know how these woman are. they flake alot. after the date she was showering me with compliments, and sayin how much fun it was, and how she couldnt wait to see me again. then cold. i read about this alot. im currently a dj in training, i was married for 7 years and been out the game for almost ten. not used to the bs. i wish these *****es would just be real, it would save alot of time. if u dont want to go out again just say it, ya know? the sky will not fall, and ill be ok
 

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Look at her actions and not at her words. Its happened to me, girl gets all happy after a date or meeting you then poof she is gone. Maybe she had another guy she decided to spend more time with and you got left out in the cold. Either way you could always make one final attempt to get her out and then go out with her only if she is really happy for the chance. Otherwise just find another. Its not about quitting when you let them go its about self respect.
 

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1mike82 said:
im currently a dj in training, i was married for 7 years and been out the game for almost ten. not used to the bs. i wish these *****es would just be real, it would save alot of time. if u dont want to go out again just say it, ya know?
Well Mike, first of all props for getting yourself out in the field again. It is not easy to recover from a seven-year relationship. Secondly, it makes me very disappointed how negative some people in this forum can get. So on a positive note, I would attempt to make contact one more time if I were you.

It is very easy to ignore someone through texting; I don't recommend you make it a crucial part of your game. Give her a call and see if she responds. If she doesn't answer & doesn't call you back then move on. There are women who just want to enjoy the chase and will put out with time. On the other hand, there are women who don't have the guts to tell you they aren't interested anymore for some reason. I do agree with what one of the other guys replied, though. Judge a woman by her actions and not by her words. Let me know how it goes!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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