"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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So she asks else are you seeing? Responses?

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I'm interested in seeing other DJ's responses for the questions, "So are you seeing anyone else during the week besides me?"

"Who else are you taking out? Anyone I know?"

"Any other lucky ladies dating you?"

"Am I the only one you're seeing at the moment?"

Let's hear some C&F, some serious, and whatever you have used in the field successfully to field this question.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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had a girl ask me tonight if i had a girl friend...

her- do you have a girlfriend
me- yep, 3 :)
her- omg!! hahah
me- so blah blah (change the subject)

just give ambiguous answers that aren't self depricating (sp?)

ie- what do you think? (then agree with what she says but make it so it might seem you aren't telling the truth)

then if she keeps asking (weird if she does but can happen)

i usually say something like:

actually right now I'm single... I FEEL relationships set too many limits. I love the FEELING of meeting new people and getting to know them and EXPERIENCING new things and forming connections blah blah... the rush of getting to know someone who wants to know you just as bad and you not knowing where things are going to end up with them but just enjoying the ride the whole way...

i've dropped this (thanks to a natural friend) a few times and OMFG!!! this **** is ****ing golddddddddddddddd!!! chicks will give you the "OMG face" and it's really easy to go for a make out right there (asking if you have a GF is a huge IOI!)

btw - ended up hooking up with that girl tonight ;)
 

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Great responses. I think the "serious" response posted by you white_hype about the "right now i'm single" one is solid. It's a confident answer that sets her straight.
 

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just tell her don't worry about it. none of her business unless you two are an 'item' anyway
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Wiesman44: "Don't worry about it" is often only going to make her to continue asking. Also, if you were an item, she wouldn't be asking. So your points seem to counter eachother.
 

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mrRuckus said:
"what would you do if you were me?"
Of all the responses, this one is by far the greatest i've heard. It's open ended, it's non conflicting and it puts the DJ on the pedestal.
 

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Blazing Redfish said:
You can tell her that you see other guys... She will usually laugh
This might be funny some of the time and while it does convey security with your sexuality, it might also seem weird. It's funny but i'd probably never use this one in the field.
 

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Tell the broad your single? Why? So she can wonder whats wrong with you?

If a girl asks if I'm seeing anybody, and I'm not, I'll usually put it in a subtle manner.

"I got a few girls that have caught my eye, but I'm a picky man. Just because I can doesn't mean that I'll hook up with just any girl."
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I get this a lot. Used to baffle me, knowing what I know now, I understand.

I say "single", but it's the tone of my voice. I used to say single like a little desperate boy, now I say SINGLE with some hidden passion behind it. Now it's the girls who are baffled.
 

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Skilla_Staz said:
Tell the broad your single? Why? So she can wonder whats wrong with you?

If a girl asks if I'm seeing anybody, and I'm not, I'll usually put it in a subtle manner.

"I got a few girls that have caught my eye, but I'm a picky man. Just because I can doesn't mean that I'll hook up with just any girl."

Heh ... you'd be amazed that not all girls are a bunch of stupids ... some actually do have a brain and can figure out right then and there if you out on the prowl and single .... better just to set the h0 strait from up front , then then she know's your not messing around and if she does like it ... well ... shoot her the bird and walk off ...

-L8rs
 
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