"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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So really, what's keeping me from getting laid?

EFFORT

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Pathgen said:
BTW: If you do get free condoms... Do not let anyone see you picking them up especially girls. you shouldnt feel ashamed its just if you can't splurge for a 10 dollar box of condoms then its gonna make them view you as cheap...Dude honestly just buy them or at the very least make sure they are good quality and not expired. Thats what crosses my mind they are probably old or recycled or something like that....
haha no chick is thinking your cheap over that in college. I use to go in the health center and empty the whole condom bowl dish in my backpack. The condoms are obvioulsy new too why on earth would a student health center be handing out expired condoms when there goal is to promote safer sex?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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So basically what I'm getting here is escalate more. That seems to be my biggest problem, so on Monday I'm going to try escalating more. But lol reason I'm super afraid of escalating is because I've gone for a K-Close twice and failed twice. Perhaps I'm not being clear enough on my intentions or something?
 

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ElStud said:
So basically what I'm getting here is escalate more. That seems to be my biggest problem, so on Monday I'm going to try escalating more. But lol reason I'm super afraid of escalating is because I've gone for a K-Close twice and failed twice. Perhaps I'm not being clear enough on my intentions or something?

well if you tell them storys like "crazy guy crazy girl" why the **** would they want to kiss you...
 

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do you have any body image or performance anxiety issues? I think these issues are at the root of most guy's problems with closing.
 

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just stick with it, read the dj bible, it pointless asking for advice here when you haven't read it and read it again and again. Over time you'll go from getting numbers easy, to getting dates easy but getting flaked on, to getting dates and kiss closing and not getting a followup to getting a follow up but no sex to getting ONS, sex on the 50 yard line, in dorms, on dates, ETC! its a process. good luck mate..
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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This is the key.
ketostix said:
The real problem isn't him getting laid. The real problem, and the real reason he doesn't get sex, is he doesn't act like just about every other 18 year old. Most 18 y.o. have buddies and they hang out and meet girls through their social circle, or go to parties, hang out with girls etc. They don't go around cold approaching girls trying to get the same day lay. That's for advanced guys. He hasn't even gotten real attraction yet and even an instantidate and he's talking about getting laid off a cold approach.
That is how guys remain virgins well into their 20's. That is also the reason why I haven't gotten laid the "correct" way.

Also guys who are not socially calibrated don't know how to read girls. They can't tell if a girl is interested or just being friendly. Of course I speak from experience.
 

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ElStud,

I think if you would just be a little more PATIENT, it would happen. If you would call the girls in your phone book, take them on a date, build some rapport, etc. you would have a much better chance than your Hit-and-Miss game you play now. Maybe, a month down the road, you'll be at a party with them or at your place watching a movie with one of them, and it will just happen.

What I gather from your field reports is that you're coming off as desperate, and you're trying to trick a woman into having sex with you. Bad idea. I don't know any guys who meet girls at the mall and immediately bring them home for a steamy post-shopping sex session anyway.
 

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ElStud, you should stop posting and actually do something about your situation. If you have the time to complain about somthing, you have the time to do something about it. You think, having sex=getting a scholarship for MIIT. You are scared to do it, well start small. If there is a will, there is a way.
I am in a moderate muslim country, you should see the thing that I am doing to loose my v-card.
Buying the condoms happend in a hilarious way. I was passing a drug store, I suddently wanted to buy a condom. i entered the store, I payed the money. The shopkeeper was looking at me like I was crazy. He was really slow in bringing the condoms & he was so reluctent to give it to me that I had to snatch it from his hand. Now I am trying to find a lonly place to have sex. I am planning to do it in a car, so I am going to learn driving. Curently, I am raising the money(90% saved) to afford driving lessons cause my parents don't want me to drive till I am 21!
But, I have a major problem. Most of the chicks are muslims, so they are all virgins. Even if I isolate them & then take out the condoms, it may freak them out. Which will give me no sex & a bad rep. I may eventually find a way because I never stop trying but it will take me long time. You guys have any sugessions. I have already chosen & seduced three really hot chicks for this. How can I take out the condoms without freaking them out?
 

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EFFORT said:
haha no chick is thinking your cheap over that in college. I use to go in the health center and empty the whole condom bowl dish in my backpack. The condoms are obvioulsy new too why on earth would a student health center be handing out expired condoms when there goal is to promote safer sex?
Bahahaha, that's gold. I used to be the laughing stock of my whole class when I was in uni, due to how poor and cheep I was. But it won't stop you from getting laid.
 
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