So really, what's keeping me from getting laid?

[ElStud]

I'll tell you a little about my situation and let you guys decide. Right now I can approach any set and pull numbers with ease. But lol I haven't gotten laid yet. And sometimes I'm in a mood where I could give less of a f*ck about girls in general(For instance, whenever I play video games with my friends in the campus gaming room, I start getting into the game and forgetting about girls). But then there are times where I'm in a state where I WANT to approach and WANT to get somewhere with a girl.

And to be honest, getting laid is probably pretty easy, I just don't know the steps. But lol it's probably pretty easy to get laid in college, ESPECIALLY if the girl lives on campus. But yeah, I just don't know the steps. Besides haha, I probably wouldn't even have the balls to do it if I got that far. And another problem is condoms. God knows I can't afford them and god knows my parents aint gonna give me any money to help me f*ck a girl.

But yeah, I can approach confidently and all that sh*t and get numbers consistantly so what is it that's keeping Mike from getting laid? I'd like to know. Like really, what's keeping me from going to school the next day and getting a girl to just give me a blowj*b?

 

[The Bat]

You.

 

[JFun]

You can't afford $10-$15 for condoms?

You're just making excuses.

I know it can be scary to lose your virginity. Honestly I was. Don't worry about getting laid. Concentrate on yourself, on meeting and befriending girls WITHOUT the intention of having sex with them. That just gives you too much pressure.

Get a girlfriend who genuinely LIKES YOU. The sex will come naturally.

 

[Pathgen]

Wow your going to get hated on for this thread i just cant wait. But here is some serious advice

For instance, whenever I play video games with my friends in the campus gaming room, I start getting into the game and forgetting about girls

If you want to play games nobody is forcing you to get with a girl. Imho just do whatever you want in the moment dont worry about it.

And to be honest, getting laid is probably pretty easy, I just don't know the steps. But lol it's probably pretty easy to get laid in college, ESPECIALLY if the girl lives on campus. But yeah, I just don't know the steps. Besides haha, I probably wouldn't even have the balls to do it if I got that far.

Its the same everywhere to get laid forget college and dorm rooms. I had sex with a lot of high school girls in my car. Im currently in my first year of college and am having a harder time getting laid. Mostly because my social proof dissapeared when i went to a new city. I have to rebuild everything. Dont stress about sex, grow balls, read the bible, and practice.

God knows I can't afford them and god knows my parents aint gonna give me any money to help me f*ck a girl.

My mom went to costco and bought me condoms lol. It was very awkward when she gave them to me. But in your case, they are like 10 bucks or something and my school gives them away for free in the student center. Most likely yours does too.

But yeah, I can approach confidently and all that sh*t and get numbers consistantly so what is it that's keeping Mike from getting laid? I'd like to know. Like really, what's keeping me from going to school the next day and getting a girl to just give me a blowj*b?

Numbers are useless until you can get a date with a girl, then **** her. Your not approaching for numbers. If you want numbers look in the phone book there are millions. Honestly, numbers mean nothing.

BTW: If you do get free condoms... Do not let anyone see you picking them up especially girls. you shouldnt feel ashamed its just if you can't splurge for a 10 dollar box of condoms then its gonna make them view you as cheap...Dude honestly just buy them or at the very least make sure they are good quality and not expired. Thats what crosses my mind they are probably old or recycled or something like that....

 

[ready123]

um, you don't call those numbers back?

 

[Zigster]

And another problem is condoms. God knows I can't afford them and god knows my parents aint gonna give me any money to help me f*ck a girl.

lol you can buy one in a gas station bathroom for 75 cents

 

[ketostix]

Numbers are useless until you can get a date with a girl, then **** her. Your not approaching for numbers. If you want numbers look in the phone book there are millions. Honestly, numbers mean nothing.

LOL. There's really no way of telling Elstud the truth without being offensive. It's his personality.

 

[oakraiderz2]

You should probably worry about kissing a girl before you start theorizing about why you cant insert the p in the v.

 

[Warrior74]

You have all the information you need. You are the problem. There are no excuses. The local clinics give out free condoms. The campus hospital or doctors office will give out condoms. You can borrow condoms from your friends. YOu have no excuses.

When I was in college i screwed girls in their dorm (snuck in). I screwed them behind buildings. I screwed one on the 50 yard line of the football field. THat was freaking awsome. In the library on an empty floor in a study cubicle, in my friends car, in the park, at a friends apartment, in a hotel room, in a pool. No excuses man.

You have all the steps in the DJ bible. Hell every PUA book gives you all the steps to escalate.

Now anwser me this... how many girls have you called this week? What are you doing this weekend? What parties, clubs, student functions are you going to? Are you staying in playing games this weekend or getting out? Did you call any girls and ask them to go for a freaking walk? Or go running with you? What have you done?

 

[Darth]

People in general put way too much value on having sex.

"I haven't gotten laid, I must be a loser."

Don't worry about it. Focus on YOU.

 

[Warrior74]

People in general put way too much value on having sex.

"I haven't gotten laid, I must be a loser."

Don't worry about it. Focus on YOU.

it is a big deal when you've never had it. These virgins are scared....they know the consequences of sex both negative and positive....they are afraid of alot of things. It's just safer to be a virgin and complain and make a million post on a message board then it is to do something risky. I was a virgin until I was 19. I won't lie...my father put the fear of god in me about sex. I was afraid of disease, of getting some girl pregnant and ruining my life, of being trapped with whatever girl I had sex with...what if I don't like her, what if she wants to get married? All of these fears went through my mind....I wanted it and didn't want it....the final tipping point for me? My highschool sweetheart cheated on me with her "best friend". Basically I waited to long to hit it and she moved on to someone who was brave enough to do it. They are married with three kids now. And she's a good girl. This made me mad enough to do something about it. There was a girl in my neighborhood who had a rep for being slut. I started hanging out with her...she thought I was a geek, but I kept pushing for the lay until she finally gave in. Banged her all summer and then went on to go through a bunch of girls in college. To you virgins...get over your fear. Getting puss.y is easy...you are the one making it hard.

 

[ketostix]

People in general put way too much value on having sex.

"I haven't gotten laid, I must be a loser."

Don't worry about it. Focus on YOU.

The real problem isn't him getting laid. The real problem, and the real reason he doesn't get sex, is he doesn't act like just about every other 18 year old. Most 18 y.o. have buddies and they hang out and meet girls through their social circle, or go to parties, hang out with girls etc. They don't go around cold approaching girls trying to get the same day lay. That's for advanced guys. He hasn't even gotten real attraction yet and even an instantidate and he's talking about getting laid off a cold approach.

 

[Aragon034]

ElStud, stop putting the horse behind the cart and follow the progression DonS, Warrior, and as they said, pretty much every PUA book says.

And no excuses, if you want it, go for it, if you kinda want it, you're better off just playing video games.

 

[ElStud]

Wow your going to get hated on for this thread i just cant wait. But here is some serious advice



If you want to play games nobody is forcing you to get with a girl. Imho just do whatever you want in the moment dont worry about it.



Its the same everywhere to get laid forget college and dorm rooms. I had sex with a lot of high school girls in my car. Im currently in my first year of college and am having a harder time getting laid. Mostly because my social proof dissapeared when i went to a new city. I have to rebuild everything. Dont stress about sex, grow balls, read the bible, and practice.



My mom went to costco and bought me condoms lol. It was very awkward when she gave them to me. But in your case, they are like 10 bucks or something and my school gives them away for free in the student center. Most likely yours does too.



Numbers are useless until you can get a date with a girl, then **** her. Your not approaching for numbers. If you want numbers look in the phone book there are millions. Honestly, numbers mean nothing.

BTW: If you do get free condoms... Do not let anyone see you picking them up especially girls. you shouldnt feel ashamed its just if you can't splurge for a 10 dollar box of condoms then its gonna make them view you as cheap...Dude honestly just buy them or at the very least make sure they are good quality and not expired. Thats what crosses my mind they are probably old or recycled or something like that....

Haha, I actually expected this topic to get trolled, but what I got, was some pretty damn good advice. But yeah lol you don't know my parents they're all super anti-sex and sh*t even though if they never had it I wouldn't be here. Ignorant I know. Hopefully I'll eventually get a job so I can buy condoms with my own money. Good stuff man.

Another "whoa is me" post. He "doesn't know the steps to getting laid", and "I can't afford condoms", and "when I play video games I forget about girls". FK me. His brain is more than willing to come up with thousands of new excuses to cover for the fact he is chicken. Just plain scared.

Guy, your self-confidence is in the tank. You don't believe in yourself. Sure, you can talk to a girl all night, but when it comes to speading her legs to run the jackhammer, you wuss out.

Now most people are probably going to tell you to man up and hit it. But with you, that won't work. You need to keep on hitting on the hotties, just this time, try a little kino--touch her arm when you are both laughing. You got to learn to touch, and be touched, before you can pull consistent p*ssy. Touch her around the waist and lower back; give chicks you've chatted with at least 2 times a soft squeeze of the shoulders as you approach her from behind. Pretty soon these chicks will start to give back by rubbing their tits on your arm or back. Once women know it is OK, they will be touching you all the time. As the man, you'll need to continue to escalate the touching until you've got her so red hot, that she will begging for a kiss. Give it to her, then take her home and make out more on the couch. You can figure it out from there.

Just like everyone else, you will have a first time that isn't that good. Nobody's is, trust me. By the second and third time, you'll be hooked on that sweet honey hole and you'll see how silly you were for denying yourself such pleasure.

So basically I have to escalate more? I mean as of now, I do touch, but little things like just touching her hand or her shoulder. Not heavier stuff like touching the waste and I definitely haven't tried to touch a girls tits before.

it is a big deal when you've never had it. These virgins are scared....they know the consequences of sex both negative and positive....they are afraid of alot of things. It's just safer to be a virgin and complain and make a million post on a message board then it is to do something risky. I was a virgin until I was 19. I won't lie...my father put the fear of god in me about sex. I was afraid of disease, of getting some girl pregnant and ruining my life, of being trapped with whatever girl I had sex with...what if I don't like her, what if she wants to get married? All of these fears went through my mind....I wanted it and didn't want it....the final tipping point for me? My highschool sweetheart cheated on me with her "best friend". Basically I waited to long to hit it and she moved on to someone who was brave enough to do it. They are married with three kids now. And she's a good girl. This made me mad enough to do something about it. There was a girl in my neighborhood who had a rep for being slut. I started hanging out with her...she thought I was a geek, but I kept pushing for the lay until she finally gave in. Banged her all summer and then went on to go through a bunch of girls in college. To you virgins...get over your fear. Getting puss.y is easy...you are the one making it hard.

So basically don't be afraid of escalating? I see. Kind of hard though since a lot of girls will reject if you try to escalate hard though. But I guess that just proves your point more, virgins like me are scared.

 

[Aragon034]

Haha, I actually expected this topic to get trolled, but what I got, was some pretty damn good advice. But yeah lol you don't know my parents they're all super anti-sex and sh*t even though if they never had it I wouldn't be here. Ignorant I know. Hopefully I'll eventually get a job so I can buy condoms with my own money. Good stuff man.


So basically I have to escalate more? I mean as of now, I do touch, but little things like just touching her hand or her shoulder. Not heavier stuff like touching the waste and I definitely haven't tried to touch a girls tits before.


So basically don't be afraid of escalating? I see. Kind of hard though since a lot of girls will reject if you try to escalate hard though. But I guess that just proves your point more, virgins like me are scared.

Check out the DiCarlo Escalation Ladder. I'm quite honestly shocked that this isn't being handed out to guys in their welcome package to this forum.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=147259&highlight=Escalation+Ladder

Kidding of course but that explains Kino and escalating better than i ever could.

 

[70Deuce]

Wow elstud, dude honestly I had respect for you. I thought a while back you were one of the few pimps on this forum.. But now it doesn't seem the case.. You seem like you waste too much time on this forum. Getting laid is not that hard. Just be a man, take it. dont be a b1tch about it. You feel me?

Like for real Im pretty sure you know what needs to be done with 1,000 posts and under your name you're just being a panzy.


Like seriously, no more field reports on number closing, its nothing, the next field report you write better be a lay!

P.s, if you cant get past the resistance from a girl when you try to escalate, it simply means you arent attractive enough to her. You dont soak her panties. Perhapes stay in the room for a month straight and lighten up a bit?

 

[BlakeW5]

It's already been beat to death in this thread alone, but numbers don't mean sh*t. Girls give out numbers like they give out myspace invites. It doesn't mean they want to f*ck you, especially if you never follow up on it.
You're clearly confident enough to reach this step though, most guys aren't. Where most guys are scared of the approach (95%), you're scared of the follow-up and escalation. Small tip on escalation: if you're nervous to escalate, the girl will be uneasy with the escalation. Don't think about it, just do it.

As far as "not being able to afford condoms"..... come on man, that's a cop-out and we both know it. There are so many places that will give them out for free it's not funny. If you REALLY want to have sex and REALLY want to use a condom you would find a way. Hell, most college-aged girls have condoms of their own anyway. I just get the feeling you're scared of actually having sex, God knows I was.

I was scared I wouldn't know how to and that I would mess up and do something wrong. It finally came down to it that a chick wanted to f*ck, I was there to f*ck her and I couldn't back out. That's what it took for me, my back was to the wall and I couldn't run. Was I scared? You bet your a@@ I was, but I went for it anyway. I put my brain on hold and just did what my body told me to do. You come from a long line of people that know how to have sex, it's instinctual, you know how whether you think you do or not. Two hours and three orgasms later (hers ) I was no longer a virgin. She still calls me to this day trying to get me to come back and see her lol (true story).

You've already overcame the biggest stumbling block for most guys (approaching), so this should be nothing. I fully expect a success story from you in the next two months. So by November 13th I better see an "I lost my virginity thread" by ElStud. Don't let me down man. Honestly, it shouldn't even take you that long if you really apply yourself.

This is your chance to prove yourself man. Get out there and do it for sosuave and your country

 

[Warrior74]

Are you ugly? your still young, so it's not necessarily the case. But if you're ugly, that would explain the lack of IOI. Even Style/Neil Strauss wasn't actually ugly. An ugly guy is better off finding religion or something.

shut up you daft negative whiner. I believe you are the one who is short and ugly which is why you harp on this crap all day. you gotta change your mindset bro.

 

[thechallenger]

find a trailer girl hood rat easy nasty even
and practice on her
the kind that dont care if you are rich poor ugly fat jackassy
go find a retard if you have to bro

 

[Rex Man]

Yeah, you got it, escalate. Don't be such a pu$$y about pu$$y. And don't give us that "condoms are expensive" crap either.

Here's what you do. Go to your school's health office and ask for some; you should walk out with a pocket full of (free) condoms.

I miss college already.