"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So my ex is coming back to haunt me too...

dj_jazzybrad

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About 3 months ago, I broke up with my ex, Jack, because she always had time to hang out with other guys instead of me. I broke off all communication, cut all ties, etc (in accordance with the break-up guide), and it went smoothly, and I moved on. Fast forward to a couple weeks ago, she calls me, apologizes for everything, says it was all her fault, and says that she at least wants to be friends again. I tell her i'd think about it and eventually say yes. But this time I was in control, I was always busy, and we didn't hang out much. Gave her a taste of her own medicine. Yesterday, I drove by her house (I have a loud truck) and she texted me asking if I just drove by and i said "yeah haha could you hear me" and she said "yeah it makes me sad." Uh oh. I asked why, she said "well you're killing me". Again I asked why and she said "well things are just complicated". This happened a few more times and I couldn't get an answer so I told her that if she wasn't going to tell me what was bugging her, I was going to bed. She said "ok, cool :)". Obviously it seems like she still has feelings for me. But then she turns around and hangs out with all my best friends, tells me how she likes them, etc, so I just stopped talking to her. I'm not taking that **** from her again. The last couple days, she's been asking me to hang out. I haven't responded. She just texted me again, telling me about some concert she wants me to go with her to tomorrow. I know she's just trying to fvck with my head, and it's annoying. But I don't know if she's doing it subconsciously or not. I do NOT want another relationship with her. I DONT want to be fvcked with. What should I do? Should I tell her how I feel, or just cut all communication again?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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KontrollerX

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"I do NOT want another relationship with her."

Ok simple.

Follow Rollo's advice.

Rollo Tomassi said:
Never root through the garbage once you drag the can to the curb. You get dirty, your neighbors see you do it and you rarely find what you thought was worth digging for.
Also never say yes to an ex girlfriend's desire to be your friend.

As the friendship offer on a chick's part is never sincere.

Its either to let you down easily or to set up a transition phase from whence she can fvck with your head.

Also its retarded to accept a friend request from an ex because likely you as a man have no desire to be her friend, rather you most likely wish she hadn't been a cvnt in the first place and you two were still together in a happy sexual intimate relationship.

Being friends with an ex is simply playing friends and is an entirely dishonest place to be in.

The only time its acceptable is if someone is stupid enough to get married and have kids and then he and the wife get a divorce and they decide to form something of a light friendship for the sake of the children and their own sanity.
 
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