So my ex called me...

[Warrior74]

She called three times in a row as I was on the phone with a client. I figured it was an emergency, nope. She wanted to tell me that my daughter has been being mean to her and I need to talk to her about it. She told me how hard her life has been and how she's chaaaaanged. And how I'm a good man and a good dad. Yah.

This, after I finally start to get back on my feet financially. I've got 3k left on my debts, I got a job, and my reputation for my business is getting me steady inquires. I'm down ten lbs. and have been working out consistantly. I wouldn't be surprised if she caught wind of the fact that I'm working and getting a little money now. I pay my child support so she's not getting another dime out of me.

Oh did I mention she was drunk and doing her best Britney Spears impression...'ooooh maaah gaaawd, life is so hard right now, I need your help waaaaaaa!" All I could think was this...

 

[cordoncordon]

Keep up what you are doing and make the beotchhh regret the day she and you broke up with the fury of a 1000 suns.

 

[betheman]

well done warrior, you are living life the way a man should, prioritise yourself, look after your daughter and let the ex b1tch look for another guy to leech off

 

[backbreaker]

it's a trap

 

[Albatross953]

This is the other side of the coin. Everything you read about women owning the courts, starting most divorces, hypergamy, taking ex husbands to the cleaners.
Despite all this it's a world where glass slippers are in short supply.
My ex is having the same regrets. I consider it a dividend paid alongside getting my life back. Enjoy it for a moment and then back to your new life..

 

[origin138]

it's a trap

Absolutely! You're paying your child support, you see your girl when you can I'm sure. It sounds like your obligations to your daughter are met. Sounds like the ex is trying to lure you back into a situation to see how she can benefit.

Glad to hear you're on the right track and seeing success in several areas of your life. It's funny how exes have a 6th sense about this sort of thing and try to screw it all up/see what they can glean from it. It's as predictable as the sun rises and sets. Glad to hear you're doing well. Let some other sap be her resource pool.

 

[Bible_Belt]

it's a trap

I bet it was the peak of her monthly fertility when she made the phone call.

 

[BMX]

and that is the best time of the month to stick it in her pooper.

 

[Warrior74]

it's a trap

She sent me a message today apologizing for calling after having had a "few glasses of wine". She says she wants take my daughter to counselling because she is starting to be disrespectful. This is the bait.

Now for the trap. She says she thinks it will do my daughter some good if she could see us spending time together as friends.

I countered with, let me spend some time with her this weekend and we'll see later, I have a lot going on at the moment.

 

[backbreaker]

She sent me a message today apologizing for calling after having had a "few glasses of wine". She says she wants take my daughter to counselling because she is starting to be disrespectful. This is the bait.

Now for the trap. She says she thinks it will do my daughter some good if she could see us spending time together as friends.

I countered with, let me spend some time with her this weekend and we'll see later, I have a lot going on at the moment.

see this is that bull**** lol. lol WTF can you say. you know it's bull ****. she knows it's bull siht. but you can't call it bull **** because then are a bad daddy.

i'm trying to think what would i do if my wife pulled some **** like that. my sales experience teaches me to want to reframe the question so what i would do is something along the liens of saying "so you don't think you are doing a good job as a mother.. do you want me to keep her over here while you get yourself together"

 

[Warrior74]

see this is that bull**** lol. lol WTF can you say. you know it's bull ****. she knows it's bull siht. but you can't call it bull **** because then are a bad daddy.

i'm trying to think what would i do if my wife pulled some **** like that. my sales experience teaches me to want to reframe the question so what i would do is something along the liens of saying "so you don't think you are doing a good job as a mother.. do you want me to keep her over here while you get yourself together"

Oh I've been down that road. That road gets rocky real quick. If I want custody, I would just let her pour out her heart and be sympathetic and record every damn word from her lips to use in court. (in my state only one person in the conversation has to be aware of the recording).

No, saying that would only make me have to enforce my visitation rights, because that would be the only way she could lash out for insulting her mothering skills.

 

[Warrior74]

She got fat.

 

[backbreaker]

lol NOW it's coming together

 

[SecondHalf]

She got fat.

HAHAHAHAHA!

Oh did I mention she was drunk and doing her best Britney Spears impression...'ooooh maaah gaaawd, life is so hard right now, I need your help waaaaaaa!"

Gross.
I assume that you used to accept that kind of chatter, it sure doesn't seem to match the person Warrior who's postings I read.
It's quite profound when you evolve while the ex hardbreak stagnates.

Kid doesn't need therapy, kid needs quality time from someone she can respect. Therapy, what a joke.

My ex of a 14 year marriage (now remarried to an older, shorter, fatter fellow), wants to meet me this weekend for lunch (for a confession talk).
LOL - and the point would be .... ???

See this as a validation, not a game

SH

 

[sodbuster]

My ex wife AND the first woman I "dated" after BOTH gained 40 or so after they decided they were better off without me. Life is good.

 

[Warrior74]

HAHAHAHAHA!


Gross.
I assume that you used to accept that kind of chatter, it sure doesn't seem to match the person Warrior who's postings I read.
It's quite profound when you evolve while the ex hardbreak stagnates.

Kid doesn't need therapy, kid needs quality time from someone she can respect. Therapy, what a joke.

My ex of a 14 year marriage (now remarried to an older, shorter, fatter fellow), wants to meet me this weekend for lunch (for a confession talk).
LOL - and the point would be .... ???

See this as a validation, not a game

SH

No. I didn't allow her to drink or smoke pot because she turned stupid the moment she did. If she came home from a GNO with a buzz, i would send her to bed and tell her to shut the hell up. I was branded as controlling for that.

As for therapy, yah...she just doesn't spend time with the kid and I do when I can. I wouldn't be happy either if I were the kid. After I get out this debt, I'll have more time to spend with her. She does better when I'm around more. It's just that now I have to be around her mother too. Fun times.

 

[nismo-4]

I don't keep up with any exes that I had. Ever. When the breakup happens, AFAIC, f**k you! I have no reason to go back, as that is moving backwards.