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Don Juan
I need some guidance. My parents just sat me down for a come-to-jesus meeting.
My dad told me he doesn’t agree with the way I treat women. He thinks its wrong I don’t pay for the first date (I do pay for the first date but only if the girl offers to split the bill). He told me I was an arrogant a$$hole and I think I’m better than everybody. This couldn’t be further from the truth, I’m just trying to find a girl that likes me for me and not what I can buy her. I am a follower of AD’s machine. He told me he was disappointed in me and that I’m an unemotional monster. This hurts coming from your dad. Even tho he is the biggest AFC you guys will ever meet, I still respect his opinions because well, he’s my dad. I really do my best to treat everyone around me fairly and kindly. I’m just trying to live the best life I can at this very moment and I respect the right for everyone else to do the same.
He also admonished me for not saving my money and being irresponsible with my funds. Now this is partly true. The day I got my job I leased a brand new Mercedes. Now, I can afford my car but it just eats up a lot of money every month. He has never had a nice car in his life, nor does he appreciate cars like I do (I really love my autos) so I don’t feel like he understands where I’m coming from. He sees it just as a status symbol (which makes me an even bigger prick).
I probably made a mistake in getting a car that was at the very outer edge of my price range but at the time I figured I was only 21 once and I wanted the sick car now rather than 50 years down the line. I will have little savings by the time I’m 24 (I’m 22 now) but I plan on getting a much less expensive car when the lease is up on my Mercedes and save a few more bucks. Now this point will be moot if my business takes off in next few years but I still haven’t told my parents about my side business for reasons beyond the scope of this post (check out the home page link in my profile if you want to learn more about it).
This talk I had with my parents comes at a time when I really started to feel like I had a lot of things figured out. My professional career is going strong, I have a couple of really awesome LTRs, I have way way more friends than I have time, and I was seeing my parents twice a week. I can honestly say I am happier now than at any point in my life prior. I’m really loving life right now but this meeting got me to think about where I can improve and I’m still not sure. I want to live my life my way, but my parents are telling me that’s a selfish attitude. In The Way of the Superior Man, the author has a chapter entitled, “Live As If Your Father Was Dead” maybe I should take that advice...
Can anybody give me some clarity here?
My dad told me he doesn’t agree with the way I treat women. He thinks its wrong I don’t pay for the first date (I do pay for the first date but only if the girl offers to split the bill). He told me I was an arrogant a$$hole and I think I’m better than everybody. This couldn’t be further from the truth, I’m just trying to find a girl that likes me for me and not what I can buy her. I am a follower of AD’s machine. He told me he was disappointed in me and that I’m an unemotional monster. This hurts coming from your dad. Even tho he is the biggest AFC you guys will ever meet, I still respect his opinions because well, he’s my dad. I really do my best to treat everyone around me fairly and kindly. I’m just trying to live the best life I can at this very moment and I respect the right for everyone else to do the same.
He also admonished me for not saving my money and being irresponsible with my funds. Now this is partly true. The day I got my job I leased a brand new Mercedes. Now, I can afford my car but it just eats up a lot of money every month. He has never had a nice car in his life, nor does he appreciate cars like I do (I really love my autos) so I don’t feel like he understands where I’m coming from. He sees it just as a status symbol (which makes me an even bigger prick).
I probably made a mistake in getting a car that was at the very outer edge of my price range but at the time I figured I was only 21 once and I wanted the sick car now rather than 50 years down the line. I will have little savings by the time I’m 24 (I’m 22 now) but I plan on getting a much less expensive car when the lease is up on my Mercedes and save a few more bucks. Now this point will be moot if my business takes off in next few years but I still haven’t told my parents about my side business for reasons beyond the scope of this post (check out the home page link in my profile if you want to learn more about it).
This talk I had with my parents comes at a time when I really started to feel like I had a lot of things figured out. My professional career is going strong, I have a couple of really awesome LTRs, I have way way more friends than I have time, and I was seeing my parents twice a week. I can honestly say I am happier now than at any point in my life prior. I’m really loving life right now but this meeting got me to think about where I can improve and I’m still not sure. I want to live my life my way, but my parents are telling me that’s a selfish attitude. In The Way of the Superior Man, the author has a chapter entitled, “Live As If Your Father Was Dead” maybe I should take that advice...
Can anybody give me some clarity here?