"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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So my colleague says to pupils i am an alien look alike

LittleBigOne

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At the moment i am really angry about the following thing that happened at work today. I work as a teacher on a high school and during the break a few pupils had a chat with me telling out of the blue, without that much emotion, that a female colleague told them i am an alien look alike. I repeated the phrase and asked the pupils (12 year old boys) if they were sure about what they said. Without any doubt they said yes. I believe them...
Normally i do not really care about what colleagues or pupils are thinking of me but it´s really disrespectful that a colleague is saying this to pupils.
This colleague is always friendly and even a pretty woman to see. That makes it more weird beside the fact that it is not a compliment from her side to me. I am gonne question her about this.

How should you react?

ps, it´s not the colleague from a former thread of me.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Iceberg

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Not to belittle your emotional state, but who gives a f**k?

It's a juvenile comment. Maybe a joke. Maybe an insult. But not really worthy of more than 5 seconds of thought.

It's like a coworker telling me, "Iceberg, someone says you look like a flamingo." I mean, really, could you see me (an adult male) caring about this?

How should you react?
Your students told you this? Then tell them, "Yeah, I'm from Planet Detention." make them laugh, and move on with your life.
 

I'm in the Mood

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Tell her you've come to eat her brains. She's probably just messing with you anyway, or she's kinda out there herself.
 
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