"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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So much stress reaching this goal of having a party

Jamal

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Here is the situation...having a party this saturday night, however this weekend I was suppose to invite people but I haven't started doing it all. My parents are expecting a party because they feel im anti social and want me to have fun. I have friends but they are cool people and not sure if they would come to my party cause so far I don't have anyone yet. I have some boys in mind to invite but not a lot. Also I want to invite girls but I don't know if I can cause I have some in my mind but they probabli wouldnt come if they don't know me. I have by tomorrow to invite kids and Ill probabli go to the mall friday and saturday and approach girls and hopefully invite them also. I just need advice...cause I feel like this party ain't gonna happend now...i jus need 20 kids tops
Also It may sound dumb but i dont know... how would you invite people to a party so that it doesnt come of as needy or how can I say it so that they would most likely come even if I barely know them
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Jamal said:
Here is the situation...having a party this saturday night, however this weekend I was suppose to invite people but I haven't started doing it all. My parents are expecting a party because they feel im anti social and want me to have fun. I have friends but they are cool people and not sure if they would come to my party cause so far I don't have anyone yet. I have some boys in mind to invite but not a lot. Also I want to invite girls but I don't know if I can cause I have some in my mind but they probabli wouldnt come if they don't know me. I have by tomorrow to invite kids and Ill probabli go to the mall friday and saturday and approach girls and hopefully invite them also. I just need advice...cause I feel like this party ain't gonna happend now...i jus need 20 kids tops
Also It may sound dumb but i dont know... how would you invite people to a party so that it doesnt come of as needy or how can I say it so that they would most likely come even if I barely know them
DON'T INVITE GIRLS YOU BARELY/DON'T KNOW. You'll just seem needy and a loser. Only invite your friends! If you don't have any friends that are girls, then don't invite them! You're having a friendly and intimate social gathering, which will only appeal to your friends and close friends. Trying to invite girls you hardly know at your gathering, merely for the sake of having girls there will make you look desparate.
 

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thanks captain j for clearing that up...i just wanted girls cause right now my parents and even my grandmother is telling me that i need a gf and need girls in my life...and i just wanted to show them that i could of done it...but if u say that would come of as need or desperate then ight.
 

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Well have no offense but it doesn't seem like you have too too many people to invite, so tell the people who you do to bring some people as well. And there's nothing desperate about meeting new girls and inviting them. Not saying to invite girls from your social circle or school that you don't know, but if you go out and meet new people I see no problem inviting them.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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