ManUnited01
Don Juan
- Joined
- Apr 26, 2006
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- Age
- 39
At my friend's 21st party on Saturday night, was speaking to a group of girls who I had just met. I was smiling constantly and being an Active Listener, letting them do all the talking. One girl I knew indirectly as she was a friend's ex. We talked alone and ended up leaving together to another bar. We ended up hooking up and got back to her place. We talked for an hour and what she told me completely blew me away. "You know, I only had 3rd dibs on you tonight" she said. I enquired what she meant. She explained to me that in the small amount of time I left the conversation with the group of girls to get a drink, they chatted as to who would get to take me home (!). I found this incredible as none of them seemed to give off any obvious signals, but secretly they each wanted me. After another drink, the girl then starts saying how "guys these days are such pussies, they take me out to dinner, spend all this money on me, text me the next day asking how I've been and getting too emotional." She then tells me how frustrating it is when guys don't have the balls to make a move and how she was so impressed that I moved in for the kiss at the bar before. We then moved things to her room...
I now feel so confident with women after such a night of epiphany. I used to always look for little signals when talking to women or try to say impressive things where now I feel so much more relaxed by just smiling and actively listening to them, asking questions. I used to be scared using kino or trying to single out one girl, now I look for the earliest opportunity. I now know how crucial it is that guys make the moves in order to progress further with women, they expect it so!
This was my first "one nighter". We both have each other's number and now I am hoping she is not expecting a relationship (my gut tells me she isn't). How should I deal with this? Just leave it be?
I now feel so confident with women after such a night of epiphany. I used to always look for little signals when talking to women or try to say impressive things where now I feel so much more relaxed by just smiling and actively listening to them, asking questions. I used to be scared using kino or trying to single out one girl, now I look for the earliest opportunity. I now know how crucial it is that guys make the moves in order to progress further with women, they expect it so!
This was my first "one nighter". We both have each other's number and now I am hoping she is not expecting a relationship (my gut tells me she isn't). How should I deal with this? Just leave it be?