So Much Information

[OlympicTim]

So I've been doing a lot of reading since I joined this fourm, and it all makes sense kind of.

However what I don't understand is how am I supposed to put all of this into practise? It just seems like theirs so much I have to remember, and ways I need to act. This all seems so complicated I don't understand how to put any of this information to good use.

Any tricks any of you guys use or is it a more trial and error thing where I just keep approaching women until I get it right

 

[ubercat]

Heheh

Well I've just had six months off from women after 10 years of LTR (first time since I was 17) so spent too much time on SS.

So here's my payback for all the knowledge and support I've got here:

- Workout - everyone agrees on that one - I'd suggest HIT training if yr young as it chews less time.

- Have a cool wardrobe - also universally agreed - check out the sticky in hall of excellence. If $ tight - get a few nice quality fitted tees - team them with cheap jeans, boots and jackets from 2nd hand stores. Google men's classic looks and find in op shops.

- Have plenty of hobbies that will put you in contact with women - e.g. I go to yoga class, dance class and (I can't believe this one myself) have joined a book club

- Have one manly hobby that differentiates u a bit - I am learning to ride a motobike and I've been into martial arts for years - bow hunting, rock climbing whatever

- Of course save and invest - if u do wife up someday its an expensive life.

This all builds long-term value.

Now for tricks.
Everyone agrees always practice beats tricks.

So..have one default way to:
- approach
- get the number
- organise the date
- place to go to
- escalate on the date
And if u really need to script the bedroom scene - google on 2 girls teach sex torrent.

What I mean is have a simple script u follow - of course it won't work all the time. But it will stop u from freezing up and get u thru lots of approaches. For a noob I'd suggest indirect approach - search here.

OLD is horrible but I've always found it a good way to practice skills. You'll get plenty of timewasters big hogs etc. don't go yecch and bail - practice with them. And collect some of the 4s-5s as friends. DJ shouldnt b getting horizontal with anything less than a 6 - have some stds.

For indirect approach the mall is best - Espi is a bit of a specialist on this so search his posts.

So basically between social circle game, OLD, and your new hobbies u should be surrounded by women

Hope this helps - happy hunting.

 

[ubercat]

Oh and the guys I've learnt most from r Espi, RangerMike, Motu, Logicallefty and Scaramouche - search on their posts and u won't go too wrong.

But honestly if u work on the things I've listed here for six months life will change....so I wouldn't go looking for more knowledge or you'll just end up a confused PUA geek.

 

[amazingswayze]

Baby Steps!

how am I supposed to put all of this into practise?

Baby steps. You won't truly understand these concepts until you've practiced them. At first when you're experimenting with your game, it will seem systematic. If you keep practicing though, I promise you, it will come naturally. PM if you want!

 

[Fedex]

Here's some reading material that would give you a great head start!

The book of pook: https://bookofpook.neocities.org/
A compilation of posts from our very own Pook. A user who had been very influential on this site a while back.

I highly recommend it for those who still have lingering questions on Life and Live and Pick-up's itself.

and the most worth mentioning Dj Bible:
http://www.mts.net/~bpony/djbible/

Which will be your absolute guide to Don Juan, if you do let it change and improve you

All the best! Take what suits you and leave what doesn't, In the end it's your life and your choices are the only thing that would shape it to what it is and what it would be.

 

[ucde]

One way to side-step all self-help advice, basically forever, is to make it a daily practice to tune into your feelings, experience them as deeply as you can, and base your life off of what they are telling you.

Most 'info' are mental rules trying to get you to act in ways which would occur naturally to a man who was connected to, and following, his own heart. If this connection deepens, most of these behaviors emerge naturally. Using mental rules is actually way more confusing and error prone than this method, but people find the notion of feelings repulsive because they are intangible and invisible, and it requires months and years of subtle, daily work to truly get to know one's own feelings. You have to ask yourself every day, and sit with yourself every day, otherwise you actually don't know what you yourself are feeling! If guys knew what they were feeling, the world would become simpler for them. Once you tune into your own feelings, you also tune into everybody else's, and a whole lot of human behavior suddenly starts making sense.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

All good advice so far.

It is a lot to take in and implementation will last a lifetime. You are basically on a path towards changing your whole existence and philosophy. You will look back at your current self in 2, 3, 5, 10, 50 years time and, though you will recognise yourself, you will laugh at how wet behind the ears you are now. That's nothing personal. It happens to everyone who breaks from the clutches of blue-pill conditioning.

To break it down it to manageable chunks so you don't become overwhelmed. Ask yourself what are your strengths and weaknesses. Do not rely on your strengths and accept weakness. Understand both and work on them forever.

To start, ask yourself things that have challenged you before. What did you do well? What not so well? Be specific about problem solving. Be objective, not emotive. Do things that you know you should do, not things that you feel you should do.

Above all, learn to know that you are enough. You complete yourself and other people, family, friends, lovers, partners, they simply compliment your own innate happiness.

Understand that there is no rush.