"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You haven't had lotsa,lotsa sex,been with a number of different women,gotten much experience,haven't dated that much, does that put in you some sort of other category with chicks when it comes to that sort of thing? Or is it all just changing your mindset? What if you're the somewhat shy,not the most confident type,and yet all you want is to find that one girl,get married,and start a family?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Then don't worry about it.

You don't need to nail 55 girls 27 times each to somehow earn your "Pimp Badge". There is no such thing as a Pimp Badge, but, hypothetically, if there was, I bet it would look cool.

But that's besides the point.

If you just want to find that one girl, that's absolutely cool. But you need to know that she's not just going to scour the ends of the earth for you. She doesn't even know you exist!

You need to get out there and find her. How do you do that? You need to talk to girls. You need to open your mind a bit and step outside your comfort zone - what you have been doing obviously isn't working, so you need to change it up a bit!

Make a genuine effort and you'll see genuine results.
 
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Thanks. I am not looking for a pimp badge,just something to help fill an emptyness. As you can see,I have some deep rooted problems. Finding this site has made me see somethings in a new light,for better and worse. But I cannot find that balance I need.

I am concerned over certain hangups I have about myself in general.

Talking to girls has been the problem for me over time. Idk what it's due too. But I get jealous when I see other's more succesful. These hang ups may come from long periods of isolation,and no sense of connection. I am starting to get worried about this.

My sense of things is I want it,now. That stems from I think,other people who are getting it,now.
 
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