"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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So let's say a girl responds on myspace?

speakeasy

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Okay, I rarely hit girls up on myspace, because 90% of them are either idiots, attention *****s or drama queens. Sometimes I'll just browse once in a blue moon to see what's out there. If I click on her profile and see someone who is single, is my physical type, and seems to have a mind and a cool personality, I just may send her note. I don't ever send notes complimenting her looks or any sh*t like that. Sometimes I'll use C+F if she seems like the fun party type of girl, but if she seems more like the intellectual type, I'll just find something in her profile that she seems to be passionate about and then comment on it, esp if it's something I find interesting as well. Then see if she responds back. So this one sexy brunette I saw seems to be the socially conscious type and had a few quotes by W.E.B. Dubois and MLK on her page, as well as a map showing what countries she's travelled to. I'm pretty socially conscious myself and have a lot of world travel photos on my page. So I just sent her a note saying how much I really liked that she has that quote up there and how it's just as true when it was said as it is now. Here is her response with my original message beneath it.

Thanks for the note. Yeah DuBois was really prophetic about a lot of things. Your pics are very nice as well. Looks like you get around.
Take care,
girls name

----------------- Original Message -----------------


Just ran across your page while surfing around...That W.E.B. DuBois quote you have up is so provocative I had to write it down. It's just as true now as the time that he wrote it and so true in every sense. Thanks for sharing it.

speakeasy


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Well, it's good that she at least responded, usually I don't even get that. This isn't one of those high interest level responses(where a girl will at least ask you a question about yourself or something). Maybe she was just being polite and sending a small note and the "take care" thing sounds like that's pretty much a close communication thing, what do you guys think? If I did want to fireback, what could I say?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The important thing is that you got an email back. The game is already on, just conversate with her like you do with any other girl. She's showed enough interest to respond to you, now just build upon it. You're being a little too cautious when you say "Maybe she was just being polite and sending a small note".
 

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"Your pics are very nice as well." what pics is she talking about? you didnt say anything about her pics...

if shes talking about pics of you then game on bro! smoothly ask for her IM sn or # after a few more replies
 

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Tear Gas said:
"Your pics are very nice as well." what pics is she talking about? you didnt say anything about her pics...

if shes talking about pics of you then game on bro! smoothly ask for her IM sn or # after a few more replies
She was referring to my travel pics.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ahah, i thought she was saying your pics made you look like a pimp! apparently not.

if I were you, I'd comment back about your trips and how fun/action-packed they were. Then I'd tell some more of my ideological views coated in romantic and idealistic language. And make sure to ask her a question either about her travelling or whether or not she agrees with your POV.

you could maybe try to be funny, I guess, but c&f over emails has never worked for me all that well. C&f over instant messenger is a little better.

then yeah, after another response or two, I'd get the screen name first. From there, carry on a short convo which you will end after about 10 minutes. Then message her again later (maybe a couple days later), start up another convo, and either invite her out or get her # or both at the same time.

i'm not overly experienced in the online realm, but this has worked for me


I'll have to remember your approach line, too, for when I start my myspace approaches. :up:
 

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Mazeman11 said:
So what happened?
Well she did respond back. She then asked how am I able to travel so much and how I came across her profile. I then told her that I'm working for myself so I can make my own schedule and that I found her because I was browsing and though she seemed interesting. Said a few other chit chat things about about some places she went and then never heard back from her. F*ck it.
 

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DevanE said:
You didn't take the hint....



Usually when you get a message like that or TTYL (talk to you later) it's pretty much a signal that "I'm responding to you for politeness because I REALLY don't want to talk to you". If a girl IS actually interested she will ask you questions as well. Move on. :cool:
Yeah, that's what I was thinking too. But after the next email, she did ask a few IOI questions(like how are you able to travel so much and how did you find me). as well as right a paragraph in response to something I said. But after that round, heard nothing back.
 
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