"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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So lemme get this straight

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So this is what Ive learned about the ladies on this site. Tell me if Im wrong with any of these things

Girls like guys who are-

Diffrent. They are confident and they dont give a **** about what other people think. They can be funny and know when to be serious. They are always in a good mood and can put people around them in good moods, also they dont bring there personal problems to girls. THey are optimistic. They keep the girl guessing, with diffrent attitudes such as, one day youll have a great time with a grl, the following day you wont call. One day you might be nicer than normal give a few compliments, the next, seem to busy to give the girl much attention o any compliments.Girls like guys who provide a challenge. are hard to get, dont give into there little games. Girls show there feelings 90% through there actions rather than words. Youmust try to be the leader in situations. You should think the girl wants you. You should think you are "the man" and the girl is honored to be around you. You should be ****y. You should keep many girls around and always talk to girls and have other options. When you see a girl that intrests you, you should look her in the eyes and smile untill she looks away before you.You dont care what people say about you. You cant be insecure.Yuo should make her feel good about herself. Take 1 step forward and 2 steps back.BROS BEFORE HOES.


Are some of those things right?I probably missed a few things.

Oh and, dont think about what to say or do or think back on any of these rules here,when the situation comess youll know what to do.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Yep, that about sums everything up. Even if you missed something, you get the idea of it.
 

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Originally posted by This Times For Real
So this is what Ive learned about the ladies on this site. Tell me if Im wrong with any of these things

Girls like guys who are-

Diffrent. They are confident and they dont give a **** about what other people think. They can be funny and know when to be serious. They are always in a good mood and can put people around them in good moods, also they dont bring there personal problems to girls. THey are optimistic. They keep the girl guessing, with diffrent attitudes such as, one day youll have a great time with a grl, the following day you wont call. One day you might be nicer than normal give a few compliments, the next, seem to busy to give the girl much attention o any compliments.Girls like guys who provide a challenge. are hard to get, dont give into there little games. Girls show there feelings 90% through there actions rather than words. Youmust try to be the leader in situations. You should think the girl wants you. You should think you are "the man" and the girl is honored to be around you. You should be ****y. You should keep many girls around and always talk to girls and have other options. When you see a girl that intrests you, you should look her in the eyes and smile untill she looks away before you.You dont care what people say about you. You cant be insecure.Yuo should make her feel good about herself. Take 1 step forward and 2 steps back.BROS BEFORE HOES.


Are some of those things right?I probably missed a few things.

Oh and, dont think about what to say or do or think back on any of these rules here,when the situation comess youll know what to do.
THESE ARE NOT RULES, they are guidelines and hints to get you to develop your own style.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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BUT treat them as rules for the moment. Treat them as rules until you dont think about them.

My music teacher told me "Learn all the theory you can, Make it your religion, then forget about it" I never understood what that meant until recently. So I'll try and explain it how I realised it.

I was composing something, and wrote probably the best solo I ever have in my life within 3 minutes. I switched between scales and everything else perfectly, throwing in the occasional note just to link it all together. It was mad. I didnt think about it, I just did it. I was impressed with myself.

Since then, I now know what he meant. When you've learnt it, forget it. Dont live by it, live for that moment. I know the theory... I've done it so many times, it's second nature. I write what I feel, and I have no boundries now.

How does this relate to DJism?

You're an AFC. You come to this site. You try all this stuff out for yourself. We give you this rules for you to follow. This breaks you out of being an AFC into something greater. You keep using it, until you hit that realisation. That realisation, is that all that "alphaness", all of that "happy guy without a care in the world" has become a part of you. You've done it so much, you are that. You have changed.

Now when that happens... Just be yourself. Why? Because you dont have to try to be that person you wanted to be ages ago anymore. You dont have to think about it, you do it, right off the bat. And you're the most **** hot thing to come out of where you come from.

So yeah. In my oppinion, treat these as "rules". You should naturally reach the realisation for yourself.
 
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Originally posted by DJBen
BUT treat them as rules for the moment. Treat them as rules until you dont think about them.

My music teacher told me "Learn all the theory you can, Make it your religion, then forget about it" I never understood what that meant until recently. So I'll try and explain it how I realised it.

I was composing something, and wrote probably the best solo I ever have in my life within 3 minutes. I switched between scales and everything else perfectly, throwing in the occasional note just to link it all together. It was mad. I didnt think about it, I just did it. I was impressed with myself.

Since then, I now know what he meant. When you've learnt it, forget it. Dont live by it, live for that moment. I know the theory... I've done it so many times, it's second nature. I write what I feel, and I have no boundries now.

How does this relate to DJism?

You're an AFC. You come to this site. You try all this stuff out for yourself. We give you this rules for you to follow. This breaks you out of being an AFC into something greater. You keep using it, until you hit that realisation. That realisation, is that all that "alphaness", all of that "happy guy without a care in the world" has become a part of you. You've done it so much, you are that. You have changed.

Now when that happens... Just be yourself. Why? Because you dont have to try to be that person you wanted to be ages ago anymore. You dont have to think about it, you do it, right off the bat. And you're the most **** hot thing to come out of where you come from.

So yeah. In my oppinion, treat these as "rules". You should naturally reach the realisation for yourself.
Oh yeah and I forgot. The dj mindset. which is basically what you jsut said. Make it second nature.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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