"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So I've stopped seeing all girls except 1, wonder where this'll go?

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As some of you may know I recently hooked up with a damn hottie. We've been hanging out for a couple weeks now (close to 3) and things are great. There's no label or anything, and I did have a couple other girls I've been hanging with prior to meeting her, but since we met up I just haven't had the desire to pursue others. One girl I used to hang out with still won't leave me alone. Hell, I even get girls opening me on myspace now. And not single mommies either, fresh hotties. I just don't seem to give a sh!t.

Why?

Honestly because I'm comparing them and the girl I'm seeing now is way hotter than all those. Now I'm not going oneitis or anything, if we stopped talking tomorrow I'd be perfectly fine, but I have voluntarily stopped seeing other girls because frankly they're just not as hot. I have a feeling sex with em would be lame compared to what I'm getting now.

I dunno, maybe I'm just rambling, maybe she's getting to me cause she keeps doing these nice things and is sexy as fvck, but has anyone just voluntarily dropped other girls to date one? Not exclusively or anything, but just not had the desire to actively seek out new ones?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Hot isn't everything, playah.
 

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Its normal to give some girls more time then others depending on how much you like them and such.

I understand your putting aside your other girls because their not as hot, but are you putting aside searching for new ones.
 

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Force yourself to see other girls, just to have the abundance mindset. To expand your options just in case things don't work out now. By seeing other girls you also prevent yourself from getting one-itis, and avoid wimpy/wussy behaviors.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'd suggest seeing other girls and keeping them in the shuffle. Back in the day, I had the option to spin a few plates but I abandoned the others for this one girl in particular because we were both so attracted to eachother.

It didn't work out with her (it got kinda messy actually) and now I'm dying to go back out with one of the girls I rejected previously.
 

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muscleman said:
As some of you may know I recently hooked up with a damn hottie. We've been hanging out for a couple weeks now (close to 3) and things are great. There's no label or anything, and I did have a couple other girls I've been hanging with prior to meeting her, but since we met up I just haven't had the desire to pursue others. One girl I used to hang out with still won't leave me alone. Hell, I even get girls opening me on myspace now. And not single mommies either, fresh hotties. I just don't seem to give a sh!t.

Why?

Honestly because I'm comparing them and the girl I'm seeing now is way hotter than all those. Now I'm not going oneitis or anything, if we stopped talking tomorrow I'd be perfectly fine, but I have voluntarily stopped seeing other girls because frankly they're just not as hot. I have a feeling sex with em would be lame compared to what I'm getting now.

I dunno, maybe I'm just rambling, maybe she's getting to me cause she keeps doing these nice things and is sexy as fvck, but has anyone just voluntarily dropped other girls to date one? Not exclusively or anything, but just not had the desire to actively seek out new ones?
You gotta look past those proper t!tties and all that a$$. So what if she is "hotter" than, the other girls. Looks only go so far.. How is her personaility. Is she fun to hang out with? Does she make you feel good? One guy I know is dating this girl just because she is hot. You know what? She is a fvcking b!tch and control freak. Just make sure you are making the right choice.
 

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Ok I should probably elaborate. Yes there's more than just looks. She's fun (and funny) as hell and we always have a good time. Just with everything else going on in my life right now (new job, my business, school, lifting) I don't have as much time to go out and game a bunch of girls. I have maybe 2 nights a week I can do anything. I even spend weekends working.

I'm not actively looking. I'm still doing my myspace thing (kinda hard not to talk to hb's when they send YOU messages), but not really meeting anyone off there. Just keeping some girls "bookmarked" that I can try and follow up on if things don't work out. It's like ... having options without actually banging lots of chicks. As far as the variety thing goes, as I mentioned earlier the sex is fvcking nuts and she's definitely satisfying me. So I really have no desire (at this point) to go fvck other girls. We'll see how tight her game is though.

I'm not really torn or anything, just wanted to get some opinions - being contemplative if you will.
 
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