"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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So I've noticed that ALL girls seem to.....

Demystify

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So I've noticed that all girls seem to have this very subtle way of putting you down. Like I said it's ALL girls so nexting them isn't an option. And as I said it's very subtle and indirect. Like they'll say stuff like "have fun with that" or "right" or "tragic" but the tone they'll say it with is a tone in which it kind of puts you down. It's almost as if they're putting it in a tone as if they're above you. I can't explain it. I'm sure some of you guys will understand what I mean. But you see the thing is it's hard to respond to this kind of stuff, because if you make fun of them back it could backfire because they weren't really directing making fun of you. And ignoring it makes her feel like her she had success with those subtle putdowns and in this case she'll get progressively meaner each time she talks to you.

And like I said all girls do this so nexting them isn't an option. If I next one girl because of it it's just going to happen with the next girl and the next girl, etc. So please don't tell me to next the girl. I'd like to know how to respond to this sort of attitude from a girl.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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What they do to you, you do back to these girls. So if they're "slyly talking down to you", you just do the same to them. Like-for-like works best in these types of situations. For if you blow-up giving a direct insult to these girls, you'll just come off looking insecure and hypersensitive -- and, as you probably know, that appeals to no girl.
 

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You get disrespectful responses because your being to nice. If a girl ever disrespects me, i confront her and she gets scared and apologizes. And if shes doesnt apologize then i never talk to her again. Dont sit there and let girls talk to you like your a puussy. If a girl talks to you like your a puussy then its because your acting like one! Stop being scared of girls and confront them on thier unacceptable behavior. If she doesnt like it then move the hell on.
 

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Don't get worked up over it, but turn it around and call her on her bs. That type behavior is not acceptable out of anyone when dealing with you. You are a MAN who DESERVES their respect. If they're not willing to give it to you, that's fine. They've just eliminated themselves from the list of people you keep up relationships with.

If she does this, turn it around, saying something like "I sure think it's a shame when little girls haven't been taught manners :p, maybe someday I can give you a little crash course" and pat her on the head playfully. The important thing is to not get all worked up about it and let it affect you, while at the same time letting her know she has messed up and you're not gonna tolerate it.

If this behavior continues, you should pay no more attention to that b itch.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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First, a specific example would have been good here.

Second, it sounds to me like you're thinking too much. Stop analyzing what the girl is saying. Who cares what she's trying to do or not trying to do? If you want to get the girl, stop paying attention to words and start paying attention to what matters (escalation and making the move).

It's also how you're interpreting it. If you ask me if a girl ever puts me down, I would tell you no. Is that really the case? I don't know. If it isn't the case, do I care? Nope. ;)

JK
 

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I say stuff like:
"Don't get smart with me"
"You're kind of a smartass aren't you?"
"I don't really like the attitude, it actually makes you less attractive."
Or, just give her a look and ignore her and start talking to someone else, preferably another chick. If she's being disrespectful than pull your attention away.
 

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Its a mini test. They're looking to see how you'll react.


A real man has a strong sense of self. He draws people to his reality. If you react negatively to them it means you can easily be manipulated and that means you're mentally weak.


Treat women like little girls and don't take them too seriously.
 

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Who gives a sh!t? Have sex with them all night - they'll be a lot nicer and more emotional =)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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show no emotion! have a look on your face that says "nothing they say will affect you" (that James Bond typa look)
 

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I'm willing to bet you have no sarcasm detector.
 

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My girlfriend cursed in the beginning of our relationship, and I didn't like it. I confronted her about it, and told her 'that language is unacceptable'. She apologized, and hasn't cursed ever since.

If something makes you uncomfortable you need to let them know, even though the conversation may bring forth an argument or some short term drama.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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