"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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So it's been a year since my mom passed

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Most of my friends know about her . She lived to be 82 unfortunately passed away due to complications of diabetes. I guess we could describe our relationship as the same one woody allen had with his mom. She could be overbearing at times. But compared to some other mothers that I knew growing up I know I had it pretty good. When you see TV shows like the sopranos most of the problems are rooted with the characters mothers. If I hadn't discovered this website when I did I would have still been simping over girls who would lead me on like a puppy.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If I were to blame a parent, I would blame my dad. I love my dad but he lived in a different era and didn't instill the kind of values I wish I had at a young age.

Notably I was bullied during my early school years and my dad always advocated for going through the system; teachers, principals, etc, which never solved my problem. Meanwhile my mom was the one that suggested I fight so I wouldn't have the problem in the future.

When it comes to blaming one's mother...I mean, that just goes back to not asking a deer how to hunt deer, but ask a hunter.
 

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I never blamed my mother she was an awesome person and did what she could for a single mom with three.
 
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