-so Im In College & Need Help!!-

[jmeh13]

First of all i just wanted to say that this site has greatly benefited my self and my friends whom i recommended it to.
Here is my dilemma. I have a sociology class with about 35 kids and..... one very very beautiful girl. This girl is amazing and she knows it. Today was the second day of class i'm trying to ignore her a little bit because every guy in the class makes it obvious and gawks at her. I am positive that she is attracted to me because today i caught her staring directly at me out of the corner of my eye ( in know lame) but i waited a bit then looked at her and she realized what she had done and quickly re-adjusted in her seat.
I would usually get to know her by just talking to her in class but in this class their is no room for chitchat and after class i have no idea what i would do. This is were i need help. so after or before class would obviously be the best option but i don't know how to confront it. I feel a little frustrated because this usually this doesn't happen but i guess maybe i don't want to mess it up because it feels like all the phone numbers, one nighters, and first dates have all been practice for this girl. haha i know but if anyone has been in this situation please help!

J-me

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

First of all i just wanted to say that this site has greatly benefited my self and my friends whom i recommended it to.
Here is my dilemma. I have a sociology class with about 35 kids and..... one very very beautiful girl. This girl is amazing and she knows it. Today was the second day of class i'm trying to ignore her a little bit because every guy in the class makes it obvious and gawks at her.
I am positive that she is attracted to me because today i caught her staring directly at me out of the corner of my eye ( in know lame) but i waited a bit then looked at her and she realized what she had done and quickly re-adjusted in her seat.
I would usually get to know her by just talking to her in class but in this class their is no room for chitchat and after class i have no idea what i would do. This is were i need help. so after or before class would obviously be the best option but i don't know how to confront it. I feel a little frustrated because this usually this doesn't happen but i guess maybe i don't want to mess it up because it feels like all the phone numbers, one nighters, and first dates have all been practice for this girl. haha i know but if anyone has been in this situation please help!

J-me

Hey buddy, good job for considering wanting to game a very very beautiful girl...its rare to find true beauty these days. Now on to your situation. Now in terms of ignoring her....why would you do that? To set yourself up as different compared to other guys? To be serious, ur not the only one who's doing the same thing. I bet there are afew other guys with the same strategy, ignoring her to not seem like u like her. Now here's what I personally believe you should do:

1) Don't hide looking at her. Be a man. So what if other guys are looking at her too? It only matter what you do, not them. She obviously likes what she sees in terms of you . She wants you to talk to her...why else would she if its not in an over the top manner?

2) Don't put her on a pedastal. Saying to urself how first dates, One Nighters, and numbers are common for her...doesn't matter if it is or isn't. She's just like any other girl who wants a stud like you. Its just means ur unique among even more guys.

3) Next time you see her, approach her after class. These guys obviously don't have the balls to do this. But you do. This alone sets u different from other guys. When she's about to leave, touch her shoulder or arm so that she stops. Smile, and say what u want to say. That you truly find her beautiful. Trust me, you'd be shocked at her reaction...since ur doing this in a genuine manner. Most guys don't approach a girl in that kind of confident, non-apologetic, honest manner. Most either do it half assed or in a beat around the bush or just indirect manner. But you don't have to resort to that. This can be hard but do not care what anyone else in class thinks of you doing this. Most won't really care at all or will look at u in a confident light.

Good Luck son, Go For It!

 

[jmeh13]

Say What

3) Next time you see her, approach her after class. These guys obviously don't have the balls to do this. But you do. This alone sets u different from other guys. When she's about to leave, touch her shoulder or arm so that she stops. Smile, and say what u want to say. That you truly find her beautiful. Trust me, you'd be shocked at her reaction...since ur doing this in a genuine manner. Most guys don't approach a girl in that kind of confident, non-apologetic, honest manner. Most either do it half assed or in a beat around the bush or just indirect manner. But you don't have to resort to that. This can be hard but do not care what anyone else in class thinks of you doing this. Most won't really care at all or will look at u in a confident light.

Good Luck son, Go For It!

Thanks for the tip. I totally agree with you on that i shouldn't put her on a pedestal. I don't know why I would start to think that way because i have always not cared at all because their are so many women out there.

I don't however understand why you tell her that you think thats she beautiful and tell her how i feel. So i am suppose to tell her that i think that i would really like you and i want to hang out real bad?

I feel that is were most guys mess up by telling a girl how he feel. I never tell a girl that she is beautiful until i have been dating her for awhile and then do it very seldom. She already knows shes beautiful and probably gets annoyed by hearing it so much. I don't think that i would do that because even though i have a lot of confidence and show it pretty well i still see guys do this and they come off like a needy ass.

your obviously telling me this because it has worked for you i dont know maybe we are dealing with different type of women. This girl is a 20 year old model type, beautiful and smart too. Tell me a situation where it has worked and lol i will go to class tomorrow and try it.

Thanks for the tip
J-me

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Thanks for the tip. I totally agree with you on that i shouldn't put her on a pedestal. I don't know why I would start to think that way because i have always not cared at all because their are so many women out there.

I don't however understand why you tell her that you think thats she beautiful and tell her how i feel. So i am suppose to tell her that i think that i would really like you and i want to hang out real bad?

Your not telling u want to hang out with her real bad. The attitude of the opener is, "Since you are beautiful...i choose you" Its how you say that definitely counts. Too much community bull sh1t telling you, that direct isn't a good idea. Bull. Its very powerful. Ask Derek Flint or anyone else on here who has also done direct and they'll tell you.

I feel that is were most guys mess up by telling a girl how he feel. I never tell a girl that she is beautiful until i have been dating her for awhile and then do it very seldom.

You've already made the choice in terms of she looks. But are you like most guys? no. Most guys would only do it in a manner thats just trying to compliment. Its like this, "I gave u a compliment...so you have to like me". With the opener i mention, you are not doing that. You are qualify her that since you like what she sees, that you choose her and that you want to know her as a person. Thats the attitude you want to have and if done the right way(Of how you say it)...she'll understand that as well.

She already knows shes beautiful and probably gets annoyed by hearing it so much. I don't think that i would do that because even though i have a lot of confidence and show it pretty well i still see guys do this and they come off like a needy ass.

Only annoyed after hearing it so much by AFCs/Tricks/Fake players. But as she ever heard it from a suave, confident, honest, charming stud like yourself? Doubt it....especially when approaching. Stop comparing urself to those people who don't have true game. You are above that. Have u actually tried doing direct like that? Why not see for yourself? I personally have gotten very good reactions from it before...it probably would work well for you as well.

your obviously telling me this because it has worked for you i dont know maybe we are dealing with different type of women. This girl is a 20 year old model type, beautiful and smart too. Tell me a situation where it has worked and lol i will go to class tomorrow and try it.

Thanks for the tip
J-me

Yes, why else would i tell you this if it didn't work? I don't stand that much out compared to other guys. Ok, i consider myself a handsome guy...but its only because i took an active effort in my appearance. Ok...i will tell you of a situation. One time there was a woman at a gas station who was gorgeous, black wavy hair and sunglasses. She had a butterfly tattoo. I go up to her telling her i found her sexy and that i wanted to get to know her. She showed interest, was receptive, and was smiling. She wanted to find out about me and then i of course found out about her. Turns out that she was a photographer for a modeling agency. She gave me her card...but the problem i had was that i was leaving to go back to school two days from then...so then it was only natural for her to have plans in those two days that i wanted to meet up with her. If it was before i left, me and her prolly could've met up. She looked atleast 5-7 years older than me.

Who cares if she's a model, beautiful and smart? They have the same fantasies, dreams, and passions as other women. Just that they look better than the average woman. Thats it. Like i've said, ur putting that woman on a pedastal still. I have full confident that the reaction she'll give u will shock you. I consider the approach i did a success, as i personally believe we could've met up. Im 100% sure of it. Now go and try it. If she seems nervous/caught off guard...even better...as the approach had great effect...which you want....as you can save her from that state of nervousness and turn it into something special for her

Any person can tell you...."oh this worked for me...this didn't"...but you will never know yourself...unless you try it. Now go get her tomorrow. I swear it'll be effective.

 

[ChapStick]

jmeh13, keep us all updated on this girl and how things go! Best of luck my friend! May you have the balls to approach!

 

[jmeh13]

If you observe women you will notice that MOST women have some aspect about their body or their face that they try to high-light to attract guys. For example if a girl has green eyes, she will try to wear green shirts or, eye-liner to accentuate her features. It's your duty to jump on that and give her a little boost. You could say.."..oh that green shirt really compliments your eyes..." no harm done. Again stop making stupid excuses and just go talk to the girl for God's sake.

First off this is amazing. I am so stupid to not have noticed this. This is so obvious but is golden and im going out and using it tonight!

My status right now is i am going in to class tomorrow and going to pick another girl. Right now im going to drink with 3 gorgeous women 2 of whom i messed around with. If i can pull that then why the hell did i put this girl on a pedestal.

Thanks guys for all the tips ill let you know how it goes.

J-me

 

[jmeh13]

She has amazing blue eyes and..... she wore a greenish blue top. pretty much made her amazing eyes ten times better.

walking out of class i smiled at her, she back at me and i said you should wear that color of shirt more often. she said with a smile and whys that. ME because it really make your beautiful eyes stand out. she loved it and then we talked for awhile did the number exchange

So thanks for the advice

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

She has amazing blue eyes and..... she wore a greenish blue top. pretty much made her amazing eyes ten times better.

walking out of class i smiled at her, she back at me and i said you should wear that color of shirt more often. she said with a smile and whys that. ME because it really make your beautiful eyes stand out. she loved it and then we talked for awhile did the number exchange

So thanks for the advice

See...now you understand? You both like what you saw and now things will go take its course. Good Luck Man!