so I'm going to ask this girl on a date through text

[mahoney]

its difficult to show a girl a good time if you don't know what a good time is yourself

if you really can't think of ANYWHERE to go, or ANYTHING to do...man, i dunno! Where are some places she has been in the last few months? Has she mentioned anywhere she's enjoyed recently, or anything she likes? This should give you at least something of an idea

 

[JPlaya]

I know her favorite restaurant

 

[Mike32ct]

Definitely have some place figured out before you contact her. Pick some place you like that you think she would enjoy too.

 

[JPlaya]

Honestly im kind of scared. I'm not scared of her I'm scared of asking. I asked her out once and she told me to text her later since she was busy that day. I texted her, but never brought it up.

 

[mahoney]

I know you're scared - thats why you are hiding behind the texts. You're scared of actual real contact, and the text contact is a way of getting the reassurance and validation you crave, but from a safe distance. You're not really taking any risks with texting, but you're not gaining anything either. Its also why you don't really say anything with the texts, you would rather spread something over 4 or 5 texts than send anything solid or decisive, because if you send something decisive it brings a conclusion and you dont want a conclusion, you just want to continually text nothingness and inanity

Its ok to be scared, but sooner or later you will have to have non-text based contact, with the risk of it either going well or not. and that means suggesting to her (in a text if you like) that you both go to the restaurant she likes, one evening next week. not a vague text with the possibility for more texting and never getting anywhere, but a solid text with actual stuff in it

 

[f283000]

What if we're friends, but not close friends and I've never called her before. Wouldn't that be kind of weird.

Wouldn't it be also weird to approach a random girl in the street? Wouldn't it be also weird to say hi to random people to build confidence? Wouldn't it be also weird to do a light touch on a girl's arm to start off your kino with her?

When you think about it all of that could be considered "weird" which is normal part of the game, but it's the guys that push the envelope, take risks and are aggressive that get the women.

Guys that think everything "is weird" and are afraid to take risks with women are the guys that end up on a saturday night playing video games alone rather than spending it with a female.

Do you want to be that guy? Never again think "would that be weird" and just do it!

 

[LoneWolf]

you remind me of myself when i was younger. i missed many many opportunities because i was "scared". now i look back and see how many girls wanted me and i never did anything about it. do NOT make the mistakes i did man. don't be scared just DO IT! you will always be scared of this until you do it and get more experience. it will become much easier trust me.

 

[Ace_Magnamus]

I honestly really don't know what to text besides hey and ****.

this date will be a disaster if he manages to get one

do NOT ask a girl out via text. call her and say "hey how you been? lets catch up on friday night/saturday night for a coffee

his game is texting. there is not much to catch up on if he only texts "hey" why does everybody want to get a coffee? very boring

Judging my history i dont think i would have madeit this far if she didnt think i was interesting. I just asked for her number and she told me to text her. Im probably just nervous. And wouldn't she think im weird if i called her. .Or i can call her and hope she doesn't answer and if she calls back say it was an accident and hope she tries to continue the convo

wrf? she isn't going to bit your head off. usually when someone gives you a number they expect to talk to you at some point. that will go over very well if you say you called her by accident. she will think you are weird then. if you are this afraid you shouldnt even talk to girls.

I really dont know where to go lol. I was just planning on telling her that we should do something this summer and depending on her response i would say so what days are good for u in the next two weeks

ask her to ge some pizza 3 months from now

Take a good, hard look at the link in my signature.

that link is a bunch of afc crap



I think this guy is a troll. jplaya is playing you with his dumb questions and answers

 

[JPlaya]

Im going to have to text cause i almost called her and i just lost my sense

 

[WhitePimp]

Text her something stupid like "hey babe let's go streaking this Friday" to break the ice, then say "alright we'll save that for a warmer night, how about bowling instead at XYZ?"

 

[JPlaya]

I think she said yes.

 

[JPlaya]

It might be a flake

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

Texting for chatting is fine, but NEVER try to make plans through texting. You lose all ability to read her tone of voice and enthusiasm, and the agony of waiting for replies is almost unbearable and above all else unnecessary.

 

[mahoney]

well here's some conflicting advice - i think the opposite

i make plans through text, but never use it for chatting (partly the same reason "ability to read her tone of voice and enthusiasm" and partly i prefer talking in person)

 

[JPlaya]

My friends said what she said was a yes, so I'm praying they're right lol

 

[mahoney]

said yes to what?

where/when have you arranged?

 

[JPlaya]

well I asked and she was like what day and I said I guess any of these days. and she said that one of those days couldn't work cause of work, so I picked another day and she said as of I right now I think that could work or something. lol

 

[JPlaya]

so is it over

 

[Mike32ct]

It's not over yet bro.

Text her a SPECIFIC date and time. "I can do Thursday night at 7pm at xyz bar. Does that work?"

It's hard for her to give you a firm answer until you give her a SPECIFIC proposal.

Don't be open-ended. They like a man with a (specific) plan. Now, if certain days don't work for her, but all means be flexible, but have a specific initial proposal.