so i'm getting on okay with the roomate but why...

[Jaun_Don]

... does she still not look me in eye?, I mean she does sometimes but not as often as she used too, we had a good talk and I have had a serious change of attitude and am leaving the past where it belongs and developed I just don't care anymore attitude, and she said something to me the other night which in the past would have made me argue with her but I just said oh okay...and walked off.

The background for those that don't know is I once had onetis for this girl and she ended up sleeping with my other roomate (and they lied and kept it from me and acted wierd around because I knew) anyways he has left and doesn't live here anymore...

It has been a week since he left and I told her I didn't want her living at my place and that we don't get on and she said she was sorry for everything and that I should get over it...and loved her room and living here...then I gave her **** about something and things seemed okay we had a good laugh but lately...

I have noticed that she slams doors a lot too and coughs everytime she walks past my room, she has also started her sighing thing which she hasn't done for ages...I'm just saying that I find it funny and am curious as to why she is acting this way...Is it because I asked her to come to a show?, I wasn't asking her out, just got free passes and even though we would have gone together...it would have been NOT together if you know what I mean...she had other things on anyway.

I know most of you that read this will be thinking, this dude's a liar he still has a thing for her but you are wrong, the truth is I don't care what she does or who with... I am just curious about her behaviour towards me.


any thoughts...

 

[brenbaus]

Just talk to her about it, obviously something you are doing is bothering her, so ask her about it. Even if you have no interest in her, she is your room mate, and you need to keep her on good terms with you.

 

[Jaun_Don]

Originally posted by brenbaus
Just talk to her about it, obviously something you are doing is bothering her, so ask her about it. Even if you have no interest in her, she is your room mate, and you need to keep her on good terms with you.

I think it's my change in attitude she doesn't know how to handle it maybe?

It's all very civil you know but usually if she asks me something I just answer with one word replies.

and dude... good advice but I am sick of talking to her if she has a problem then she can tell me...

 

[brenbaus]

Yeah, when you decide you dont care anymore, the women you already know tend to get wierded out for a little while, the thing about (most) women is that if they have a problem with you, they will tell everyone but you, maybe try asking her friends?

Even knowing your past with her (I read all the threads about it), you should still give her more than one word awnsers. Think of it like this, if you are at the club and you see a chick you want to get with, you go and start asking her questions, if she starts giving you one word awnsers, how do you feel? Just think about that.

 

[Jaun_Don]

Originally posted by brenbaus
Yeah, when you decide you dont care anymore, the women you already know tend to get wierded out for a little while, the thing about (most) women is that if they have a problem with you, they will tell everyone but you, maybe try asking her friends?

Even knowing your past with her (I read all the threads about it), you should still give her more than one word awnsers. Think of it like this, if you are at the club and you see a chick you want to get with, you go and start asking her questions, if she starts giving you one word awnsers, how do you feel? Just think about that.

Thanks...I don't do it all the time, I mean you know it's all civil stuff how was your day blah blah...

but this morning she asked me what are up too today and I just said study...you?...and she goes I don't know yet...which was a lie cos she just made a phonecall and arranged to meet some dude for coffee...ha ha.

 

[Wyldfire]

Personally, I think you're an idiot to live with a woman you are attracted to unless you are a couple. It's only asking for unnecessary drama and trouble.

 

[brenbaus]

dudes, listen to Wyldfire, she probably gives the best advice you will see on the forums!

 

[Jaun_Don]

Originally posted by Wyldfire
Personally, I think you're an idiot to live with a woman you are attracted to unless you are a couple. It's only asking for unnecessary drama and trouble.

understood but I am not interested in her anymore, I have no feelings towards her and I don't look at her the way that I used too her behaviour and ****ing my room mate turned me off her.

I have been dating other girls but nothing has come of anything yet.

 

[brenbaus]

let her catch you fvcing another girl.

then her attitude will definatly change, she may think you are still interested in her (one-itis sucks, dosent it)

I still have the same problem with this chick I used to have the one-itis for, although I date other chicks and I am over her, she thinks I am not. We still hang out sometimes. That damn woman, always calling me baby (even tho she has a b/f, and i am not it)
what do you think this means?

 

[flexion_]

What Wyldfire said. Looking forward to watching your situation on the Springer show.

 

[Jaun_Don]

Originally posted by brenbaus
let her catch you fvcing another girl.

then her attitude will definatly change, she may think you are still interested in her (one-itis sucks, dosent it)

I still have the same problem with this chick I used to have the one-itis for, although I date other chicks and I am over her, she thinks I am not. We still hang out sometimes. That damn woman, always calling me baby (even tho she has a b/f, and i am not it)
what do you think this means?

An old friend told me once that they don't want you to get over it, that's why they say **** like "I still think you haven't gotten over it" or "I thought you were over it"...but if you clearly display non interest signals and attitude then they have a problem with you.

 

[brenbaus]

women are just confusing, lets stop thinking about this, because we are just going to go in circles about it all night!

So, lets ask the chicks,

why do you keep bringing up the fact that we used to be intersted in you, but clearly display the attitude that we are not, and we tell you we are not interested in you anymore?

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by Jaun_Don
understood but I am not interested in her anymore, I have no feelings towards her and I don't look at her the way that I used too her behaviour and ****ing my room mate turned me off her.

I have been dating other girls but nothing has come of anything yet.

She needs to move out.

That is all...

 

[brenbaus]

ok, its settled, kick her ass out!

 

[Jaun_Don]

Originally posted by brenbaus
ok, its settled, kick her ass out!

people seem to have missed where I have said that I have tried too.., we are okay but her behaviour towards me is a little puzzling, (I am fascinated by people's behaviour) and all I wanted to gain from this post was some sort of answer and that's the double truth ruth, she came home before and was slamming the doors again...

 

[penkitten]

perhaps she is ashamed of all the crap shes pulled

 

[Jaun_Don]

Originally posted by penkitten
perhaps she is ashamed of all the crap shes pulled

could well be.

 

[Jaun_Don]

hmmmm...she seems to be avoiding me and honestly she has been slamming doors all through the day and having little ahem coughs here and there...my guess is she is annoyed that I asked her to come to a show with me, (but NOT with me) or it could be she is thinking about all of the **** I put up in blogs at My Space and the truth has hurt and come to light I heard that she and the roomate read what I wrote and they weren't happy.

Who knows?...**** she is confusing.

 

[Jaun_Don]

This is actually hilarious because these are classics behaviours of an AW that isn't getting guess what any ATTENTION and she doesn't like it...haaa haaa it's like living with a child, I spoke to her last night and she was touching her hair and looking at me and I was just there to ask her about some rent stuff, oddly after this she went upstairs and shut her door loudly...haaa haaa....and then when I saw her this morning she took off upstairs right after she saw me.

This girl is 23 and should not be acting this way...I am quite enjoying sitting back and watching this.

:crackup:

 

[Tazman]

I know most of you that read this will be thinking, this dude's a liar he still has a thing for her but you are wrong

Here are the reasons why I KNOW I'd be right in assuming you aren't over this chick.

does she still not look me in eye?, I mean she does sometimes but not as often as she used too

I have noticed that she slams doors a lot too and coughs everytime she walks past my room

she has also started her sighing thing which she hasn't done for ages

I'm just saying that I find it funny and am curious as to why she is acting this way...Is it because I asked her to come to a show?

Not to mention starting this thread to begin with means, without a doubt that you still have one-itis. You wouldn't be "curious" if you didn't care. Come on man, what are you gaining from this?