"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So I'm 5 mins late, and a girl blows me off

Atom Smasher

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I personally believe in calling a woman out on bad behavior, but it must be done absolutely dispassionately.

If there is not even a hint of emotion in your voice, it penetrates and actually affects her little tiny conscience. Any show of emotion will cause her to rationalize that you're a bad guy and she is vindicated. Dispassionate and detached, like a machine. That's how to call a woman out on her sh!t.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Atom Smasher said:
I personally believe in calling a woman out on bad behavior, but it must be done absolutely dispassionately.

If there is not even a hint of emotion in your voice, it penetrates and actually affects her little tiny conscience. Any show of emotion will cause her to rationalize that you're a bad guy and she is vindicated. Dispassionate and detached, like a machine. That's how to call a woman out on her sh!t.
That's exactly what I think.
I had my chance when I realized she was not coming and that she had flaked on me at exactly 21h. If I send her a text now she's gonna wonder why I'm still thinking about that. It's too late.

It's not that it bothers me that a girl flaked on me. There's more girls out there -it's now up to me to go and meet them- But I'm sick on letting girls off the hook so easily.
 

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Keep in mind that if she's so uninterested as to flake on you, nothing you say will have any sort of impact on her whatsoever. But if you need to do it to feel less powerless in that situation, then go right ahead.
 

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The title of this thread cracks me up! As always, if she couldn't give you her time, shes not worth yours.
 

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The girl was obviously never there.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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