So I went to a gangbang (some adult content)

[Violent V]

Maxtro,

Interesting read...

While it is an experience, i'd be wary going down this road long-term. It could turn into quick-fix cover up for your main problem, or even worse, what you start to solely rely on for your 'sex'. Much like masturbation.

For many men, masturbation has turned from the quick fix drug for the urges of the man downstairs, to an addiction. Add some porn in there, and who needs a girlfriend eh? Oh he'll give a half-hearted try on one girl once a month when he is maybe in the real world, but theres always the my computer and tissues calling him home every night.

Porn does put women on the pedestal in a guy's mind- not the women personally, but their assets, their sexuality. Paying women for sex is also an unconcious reinforcement from the guy of putting women on the pedestal, which feeds more into your insecurity with women.

The battle is really in your own mind. Get yourself on the pedestal, and the roles reverse.

Women can and will pay ME for sex; married women and friends will want to share me/have a fling. They have money as well don't they? They want sex as well? I got a pen!s which you need for sex no?

Start by switching the focus from the girl, and completely on to yourself. Bettering you, achieving goals etc. When you are proud of the man you have worked on becoming, when you become a lot securer, prouder and confident in yourself, those women chase you, even pay for you...

Good luck, what ever you decide to do.

V

 

[Evzone]

Just now tuned into this thread. All I will say is that it's probably best to stay out of Tijuana right now unless you're going in a big group, until the narco crisis settles down. TJ never really was a nice place, but lately it's been more crappy than usual; just turn on the news.

I do plenty of masculine things, but I draw the line on places where they have to send in the army to clamp down on crime since the police can't handle it.

 

[Rogue]

I haven't read any of the comments since my last post but after some further reflection I adjust and refine my position about the AFC buffer in that it does depend on context.