"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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So i texted this chick to see if she can hang out tonight

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me: ey, lets hang out later
her: haha I don't think so
me: ok
her: sorry i have plans
me: okay, that was just a test
her: haha u mean?
me: dont worry about it

i havent responded. Well this chick was showing signs of interest bla bla. I thought she was an easy lay, she told me she was leaving for phoenix next week at work so i thought why not pull a hail marry on this one
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Dude what do you think?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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cause i wanted to see if she can hangout the same night i texted her?
 

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and by the way, this chick wanted to hang out with me before...i couldnt cuz she was 17.. (shes 18 now)

She was the one who got my number, she was the one who texted me first.

She told me she already has plans 2 days ago but i thought id test the water for tonight
 

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verysuave said:
me: okay, that was just a test
her: haha u mean?
me: dont worry about it
her: wtf u weirdo
Lol.

Evidently saying it was a test did not work. Ive made a mental note to not try this.

I think it would have been better if u just left the test part out lol.
 

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ya gotto have some kinda humor on this u know.. i cant always make it sound soOOO serious
 

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the "that was just a test line" could be interpreted into many many things.

1. she could interpret that as "oh so he was testing me to see if i was easy"
2. some humor
3. to cover up the rejection
4. to make it sound like I didn't really care about the situation
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It was obvious that you were trying to cover up the rejection lol.

i think thats why it failed. she sniffed out the weakness.

She says 'sorry i have plans', and you say 'ok some other time maybe', then you can see how interested she is by the response she gives.
 

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some other time? nah. Its either now or never. I have a 1 strike policy
 

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verysuave said:
and by the way, this chick wanted to hang out with me before...i couldnt cuz she was 17.. (shes 18 now)

She was the one who got my number, she was the one who texted me first.

She told me she already has plans 2 days ago but i thought id test the water for tonight

bro, sometimes chick's can be very very crazy

I've had this happen too. Girl got my number. called me, texted me, then when I ask her to hang out she says "nope, i'm being lazy lol"
I told her simply ok, maybe another time. no response after that. She then calls later and asks why I haven't picked up (she called three times)?

A general sign of interest right?

so we talk and then a few days later I ask her to hang out again. again she says no. So after that I nexted her. She now pops up every now and then asking why I don't call her. She's wacked, or just looking for drama, who knows.

Keep in mind that this chick seeked me out, got my digits, and then bailed when i decided to try an move things along

Moral of the story? The game can be so unpredictable, but that's what makes it fun. Even girls who beg you to fvck them can flake at anytime.

who knows what goes on in her mind, but the best thing would be to keep going and not worry about it. Just tell her maybe next time and go do something else. trying to cover up a rejection is silly

also, 1 strike sometimes doesn't work. Girls have lives too you know -_-
 

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i aint gona let some b1tch put me down like that. Thats just me and where i stand.

I would do a "next time" if i was really into her period.

But usually, its a one strike policy policy for me period.

If she wants to hang out next, she would have to DO all the work.

Thats that
 

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verysuave said:
some other time? nah. Its either now or never. I have a 1 strike policy
I live by this rule too. If she's interested she'll make time, and if she can't, she should counter-offer. If not I take it as a sign of low interest and move on.

I'm not about to jump through hoops of fire for some puzzy...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Don't listen to any of these dorks about "covering up for a rejection is silly". I thought you made the best out of that situation. And at least u had something good to say to combat that rejection unlike the dorks here who have to take it in like a sore looser.

that "it was just a test" i thought was a good way to release the pressure/tension. Pretty slick line i thought.
 

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Don't listen to any of these dorks about "covering up for a rejection is silly". I thought you made the best out of that situation. And at least u had something good to say to combat that rejection unlike the dorks here who have to take it in like a sore looser.

that "it was just a test" i thought was a good way to release the pressure/tension. Pretty slick line i thought.
nah i think the "test" line was kinda corny. covering up for the rejection is okay though
 

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how do u cover up rejection with some humor or u just take it in and look like a looser like ease?
 

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show that the rejection doesn't faze you. try to do something at another time.
 

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faze? what would UUU say? or you just wouldnt say anything

what do you mean by "try to do something at another time"
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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