"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So I started talking to 2 chicks...and I misbehaved

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Here's what happened.
Just regular flirtation as we all like to do.
One is older so obviously less games. But I'm still respectfully pretending to go slow. Just make outs, fun outings, etc.

The other is really just for the selfie likes with pics with me or whatever.

So,
Couple of days back I find out my mom has serious health issues. Normal for this topsy turvy world, but it still affected me more than I was ready for.
So I went out to the club to maybe just take a mental break from my anguish.
Drank too much...got all stuck in my head or feelings as it were.
Drunk called one, drunk texted the other.

The one I texted, the younger one...I just kinda sent her some selfies and texted something vague like...I don't know what to do about you...
I get no response.
Yet I saw her at the school library while I was doing research, and she decided to come up behind me ask look over my shoulder and ask what I was doing.
So the lines of communication are open right? Like, she's giving me a mulligan.
Or like she doesn't want the attention to stop.
How would you guys continue with this one?
She didn't bring up my text, didn't reply.

The older one straight up called me up the next day and called me out on my dyck behavior. Called me a lush, yadda yadda. Yet we have gond out twice since then. Just shopping and make outs, I still drank on our day dates....she didn't freak out.
And we are on cool terms. She's grabbed my rooster and all and texts regularly.
I'm too busy with only about 8 hours of sleep a day to do anything else.

Both showed interest...
How to proceed?
I know my feelings got the better of me that night and I fvcked up.
But now they know my uglier side.

Classic immature drunk guy behavior.
How would you all proceed?
What pros and cons can you see here that I can't?

Honestly. I've been backing away from them cuz silence is golden. I do like them and feel like they were shocked to how I can be.
Bit we all have a dark side.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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