"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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So I Met This Older Woman...

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I met this woman while walking my dog about a month ago. We stop and talk for a few minutes just about every night. It's always small talk and I've never really flirted too much. The thing is she is probably in her early forties, probably 41 or 42 if I had to guess, and I am 29. She seems to be mature and probably would not respond well to me being overly flirtatious, negs, or any other tactics I might try in a bar, club, or somewhere. Anyway, she seems really cool and I am interested in her, but it's hard to really gauge if there is any level of interest on her part. There's probably a good chance that she would consider me too young, as well as too immature (if she really got to know me).

Any tips, advice, on what I should do. This is a unique situation for me and I am not sure how I should go about approaching her.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You should probe her with some flirting and suggestive questioning. You need to act fast before the window of opportunity passes and you're just in the friend's zone. Just go for it.
 
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older women love younger guys - just be straight- no pick-up tricks
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I don't know, even though it should be an easy pickup (at least to gauge her interest level) all he seems to have are "tactics" that lack any substance. We could be leading an ego-lamb to slaughter.
 
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Well, I'm not sure this will be an easy pickup. I think it's actually going to be much different than anyone else I tried to get. She will either be flattered by an attempt by me, or think I'm an idiot. It seems like older women who don't really get out and party or go to bars are vastly different and wouldn't respond to a typical approach. My only experience is basically the clubs and bars, and occasionally college back in those days, and I can't imagine that approach working very well in this case. I have never been with anyone more than a year older than me so this is brand new.
 
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