"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

So I hooked up with this girl a couple times..

N

naes

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 26, 2005
Messages
110
Reaction score
0
Location
VA
I was never really into her, but she was fun and it was relatively easy and when it's right there in front of you it's hard to say no. Anyway, she seems to be hooking up with another guy too, and this fact kind of pisses me off, even though we aren't dating.

Why is it that even though I don't really want her as a gf, I'm hurt by the fact that she is also hooking up with another dude? Should I ask her about it or just let it go? She is still interested in me as well.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

H

HandyAndy

Banned
Joined
Aug 18, 2007
Messages
2,127
Reaction score
21
Location
SoCal!
She wants variety...plus you two arnt committed, and i think your getting pissed off is because youve been with her so many times and you treat her like your GF?


the fvck am i talking about.....?
 
L

Leporello

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 18, 2003
Messages
955
Reaction score
13
Location
DC
You're pissed because you think you should be man enough to satiisfy her entirely.
 
N

naes

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 26, 2005
Messages
110
Reaction score
0
Location
VA
Leporello said:
You're pissed because you think you should be man enough to satiisfy her entirely.
Click to expand...
Yea I think you nailed it there.

Do you think I should confront her about it, or would that show insecurity?
 
M

mastacheef

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 31, 2007
Messages
188
Reaction score
1
Location
Las Vegas, Nevada
ive been in the same situation, yea its going to hurt and it did in a way but you can't be pissed about it because as andy said, theres no commitment but i just stepped up my game and now hes out of the picture, you can either hang in and dont let it get to you (or at least dont show her that it does) and try to be the better man or just next her.. choose wisely

EDIT: and dont confront her about it, act as if nothing happend
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

N

naes

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 26, 2005
Messages
110
Reaction score
0
Location
VA
Ok thanks for the responses, one last thing though; do girls do this a lot when they are trying to decide on a person to stick with? Does it make her a slvt?
 
M

mastacheef

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 31, 2007
Messages
188
Reaction score
1
Location
Las Vegas, Nevada
i couldn't tell you if thats a sign of deciding of choosing or not but it doesn't make her a slvt for having variety, in my eyes.. slvts are ones who give their pvssys away too often but i know what you mean it seems like it but eh i don't believe so
 
M

My Name is Nobody

Banned
Joined
Mar 12, 2007
Messages
2,153
Reaction score
13
If you want her to be faithful, I think you have to have "the talk"

But let me ask this to all those spinning plates-- Are your plates faithful to only you, or are you just a plate too?
 
M

My Name is Nobody

Banned
Joined
Mar 12, 2007
Messages
2,153
Reaction score
13
My Name is Nobody said:
But let me ask this to all those spinning plates-- Are your plates faithful to only you, or are you just a plate too?
Click to expand...

Nobody wants to tackle my question?
 
N

naes

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 26, 2005
Messages
110
Reaction score
0
Location
VA
My Name is Nobody said:
Nobody wants to tackle my question?
Click to expand...
I thought you were proving a point more than asking a question, no?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

I

I.A.F.Y.B.

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 18, 2007
Messages
2,051
Reaction score
21
Location
USA
Just let it go and let her move on with her life. You got the pvssy what else you want; her bank account? Find a new girl and move on wit yourself.
 
D

DonJuan11

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 16, 2007
Messages
1,667
Reaction score
35
naes said:
I was never really into her, but she was fun and it was relatively easy and when it's right there in front of you it's hard to say no. Anyway, she seems to be hooking up with another guy too, and this fact kind of pisses me off, even though we aren't dating.

Why is it that even though I don't really want her as a gf, I'm hurt by the fact that she is also hooking up with another dude? Should I ask her about it or just let it go? She is still interested in me as well.
Click to expand...

You are hurt because you love her. Otherwise you could care less if she was hooking up with another guy and sleeping with him. She is so interested in you, she's allowing another guy to see her naked and inside her.

Let it go and NEXT her.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top