"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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So I hit on this girl at work

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We have already exchange numbers in the past at work, she was the one who actually initiated it. 6 months ago she quit, fast forward 6 months later now she's back again.

I see her working then she started talking about how this guy was hitting on her who she rejected and how she has a **** buddy..
For the hell of it, I hit on her to see what she would do. I said

me: "so, who is living with you now"
chick: "my mom.. my bro is in jaill"
me: "what are you doing after work"
chick "im gona sleep.. I got to get up at 4 in the morning"
me: "let me know if you're not doing anything after work"
chick: "what time are you off?, I'm off at 11pm"
me: "12 pm"
chick: -grins

I continue working then she moves closer to me...

chick: "so, do you think I changed?"
me: - (I scanned her body from head to toe with my eyes. I tried to make it noticeable.) "hmmmmm
chick : "no, personality wise"
me:- "i don't know, i dont know yo well enough"


Anyways, when you hit on someone at work, does it take effect that same night right away? meaning, you get LAID that night you hit on them? or usuallya couple days or sometimes weeks later?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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This is exactly like asking:
'Well, this girl is giving me the eyes and a crap load of other signs...does she like me?'

Make a goddamn move....!!!!!!!!!
 

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with that question "do you think i have changed?" ...

it's basically a signal that u should be qualifying her. women need to feel qualified to win ur interest otherwise there is no feeling of her winning you over.

an example of an answer to this

dude: yea, in a good way

chick: how?

dude: it seems like u have this beaming aura glowing around you ....it's sickening!
 

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me: "so, who is living with you now"
chick: "my mom.. my bro is in jaill"
me: "what are you doing after work"
chick "im gona sleep.. I got to get up at 4 in the morning"
me: "let me know if you're not doing anything after work"
chick: "what time are you off?, I'm off at 11pm"
me: "12 pm"
chick: -grins

I continue working then she moves closer to me...

chick: "so, do you think I changed?"
me: - (I scanned her body from head to toe with my eyes. I tried to make it noticeable.) "hmmmmm
chick : "no, personality wise"
me:- "i don't know, i dont know yo well enough"


Nice bro.

Now, to answer your question...there is no way of knowing when you will get laid. It doesn't matter if you are at work, or the time of day, her IL and circumstance (schedule, what she has going on in her life) will dictate that. The only thing I suggest you do is find out for yourself.

Note: Her brother is in Jail? That gives you a little peek of her home life, keep a sharp eye on her behavior.
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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verysuave said:
Anyways, when you hit on someone at work, does it take effect that same night right away?..
It depends on whether or not you sneezed on them.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
It depends on whether or not you sneezed on them.
Thanks for the smart@ss answers. That was my first time doing it, and had no idea what to expect.. but..usually, from YOUR experience what happened when you hit on someone?
 

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Thanks for the smart@ss answers. That was my first time doing it, and had no idea what to expect.. but..usually, from YOUR experience what happened when you hit on someone?
Beware of dipping your pen in company ink. :nono:
 

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Docs said:
This is exactly like asking:
'Well, this girl is giving me the eyes and a crap load of other signs...does she like me?'

Make a goddamn move....!!!!!!!!!
WORD.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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verysuave said:
i freakin did! She didn't call me that night.
Take that as a giant "NO" then, move on, and forget about her.

If she was into you, she would've have been there at 12 PM when you got off. Let her make the next move.
 

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I don't see substantial IOI in this dialog....
 

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me: "so, who is living with you now"
chick: "my mom.. my bro is in jaill"
me: "what are you doing after work"
chick "im gona sleep.. I got to get up at 4 in the morning"
me: "let me know if you're not doing anything after work"
chick: "what time are you off?, I'm off at 11pm"
me: "12 pm"
chick: -grins

I continue working then she moves closer to me...

chick: "so, do you think I changed?"
me: - (I scanned her body from head to toe with my eyes. I tried to make it noticeable.) "hmmmmm
chick : "no, personality wise"
me:- "i don't know, i dont know yo well enough"
Seriously, do you talk like this? She must think you're a f-ckin' loser. Quit your call center job and stop listening to that James Blunt music, because you're coming off as a huge nerd of potsy like proportion.
 

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Don't go for girls in work, simple rule. Yes, it should sometimes be broken. I'm pretty sure this is one of those occasions when it SHOULDN'T be broken.

It would be better for you to hit the girl rather than hit on her. By all means, practice conversation, kino...etc, but avoid dating her.

For advice that can save your bacon,
Nick
 

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Nicholas Hill said:
Don't go for girls in work, simple rule. Yes, it should sometimes be broken. I'm pretty sure this is one of those occasions when it SHOULDN'T be broken.

It would be better for you to hit the girl rather than hit on her. By all means, practice conversation, kino...etc, but avoid dating her.

For advice that can save your bacon,
Nick
THat post helped alot. Thanks. So.., it should sometimes be broken.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Usually the consensus is don't do your co-workers.

I would have said go for it, but she told you her brother is in jail. Knowing that brothers are usually protective of their sisters, I would be very careful. What is he in for? You better hope it's not something serious like murder.

By the way, as for the title of the thread, I think she was actually the one hitting on you.

verysuave, if I don't see you around, R.I.P.
 
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