"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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So I have some free time.

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i am in between jobs. I prepare for interviews and take calls in between I have some free time now.

I would like to utilize this free time to learn new things and enlighten my self

Can you guys recommend some good YouTube videos /books

Topics can be from personality improvement, growing inner game
Redpill concepts about hobbies

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Do you have any interest in computers? Specifically anything with data or programming?

CJ.
 

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Cejay said:
Do you have any interest in computers? Specifically anything with data or programming?

CJ.
Thanks for the response

I am an IT Guy
I am not in programming but the rest
pls tell me which tool/topic you are talking about
 

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I recently came across this recommendation by Dr. Neil Degrasse Tyson:

1.) The Bible (eBook) – “to learn that it’s easier to be told by others what to think and believe than it is to think for yourself.”

2.) The System of the World by Isaac Newton (eBook) – “to learn that the universe is a knowable place.”

3.) On the Origin of Species by Charles Darwin (eBook – Audio Book) – “to learn of our kinship with all other life on Earth.”

4.) Gulliver’s Travels by Jonathan Swift (eBook – Audio Book) – “to learn, among other satirical lessons, that most of the time humans are Yahoos.”

5.) The Age of Reason by Thomas Paine (eBook – Audio Book) – “to learn how the power of rational thought is the primary source of freedom in the world.”

6.) The Wealth of Nations by Adam Smith (eBook – Audio Book) – “to learn that capitalism is an economy of greed, a force of nature unto itself.”

7.) The Art of War by Sun Tsu (eBook – Audio Book) – “to learn that the act of killing fellow humans can be raised to an art.”

8.) The Prince by Machiavelli (eBook – Audio Book) – “to learn that people not in power will do all they can to acquire it, and people in power will do all they can to keep it.”

Tyson concludes by saying: “If you read all of the above works you will glean profound insight into most of what has driven the history of the western world.”
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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If you're already an IT guy (I am too) then it somewhat depends where you are in IT but here are some ideas without knowing where you are in IT.


Pick up a programming language, Python, something .net, Java.

Learn to code apps (see the "pay what you want" courses on DudeIwantthat or similar)

Get involved with an Open Source project, there are more jobs than coding.

Learn Hadoop (coding or set up), Hortonworks has free DLs of a sandbox and lessons. Cloudera likely does too.


Play with Pupet or Chef or both.

Learn Azure or AWS. Learn Powershell or a language to deploy infrastructure.

Lots of interesting Data Science/Machine Learning courses on Coursera (free or cheap)

Lots of good courses on Pluralsight. Anything data science is hot right now. Analytics can be fun. If you like analytics, pick up R.

Cassandra is kind of hot right now too, so learning that.

Pick up databases, MySQL (hot), SQL Server, Oracle are all good ones. PostgeSQL could be fun.


Microsoft seams to have a lot of free learning around Azure.

PM me if you'd like to go more in depth.

CJ.
 

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I'd look at Money by Tony Robbins.... decent read, good primer. Just DON'T buy the bonds he's recommending. With our debt, the owners will get stiffed one way or another.

Mr Money Mustache blog. He's going his own way with finances.....
 

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Do some jits. I think you box if I remember correctly.

BJJ is a mind and body workout.
 

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I'm going to agree with the suggestion to learn another human language. You can open up all kinds of new doors not only with regards to work, but with regards to foreign women.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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+1 for a foreign language. Tech is disposable people and culture always matter. Go get a coffee in their area and practice simple phrases. Gets u out of the house and keep s u motivated to learn. And currently u can go in quiet times wen they ll b more patient.
 

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BTW MM if u do wanna do some tech PD I d suggest some architecture books download and then skim read them. Won't be take much time and people who understand the big picture on projects r always useful.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I m out of date. But suggestions
Art and science of systems administration
Top down network design
Time management for systems administrators
And some cloud book that covers data integration and federated identity

Of course YouTube msdn whatever but that should b yr base curriculum.
Don't know yr level apologies if this is too basic.
 

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At interview concentrate on body language saying nice things about the company, let them do most talking and being likeable. Like u were building rapport with a woman. In interviews nice guys finish first. That's very DJ so yr probably far more expert than moi.
 

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ubercat said:
At interview concentrate on body language saying nice things about the company, let them do most talking and being likeable. Like u were building rapport with a woman. In interviews nice guys finish first. That's very DJ so yr probably far more expert than moi.

Thank you

I am opening a thread somewhat related to this topic
 

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VladPatton said:
I recently came across this recommendation by Dr. Neil Degrasse Tyson:

1.) The Bible (eBook) – “to learn that it’s easier to be told by others what to think and believe than it is to think for yourself.”

2.) The System of the World by Isaac Newton (eBook) – “to learn that the universe is a knowable place.”

3.) On the Origin of Species by Charles Darwin (eBook – Audio Book) – “to learn of our kinship with all other life on Earth.”

4.) Gulliver’s Travels by Jonathan Swift (eBook – Audio Book) – “to learn, among other satirical lessons, that most of the time humans are Yahoos.”

5.) The Age of Reason by Thomas Paine (eBook – Audio Book) – “to learn how the power of rational thought is the primary source of freedom in the world.”

6.) The Wealth of Nations by Adam Smith (eBook – Audio Book) – “to learn that capitalism is an economy of greed, a force of nature unto itself.”

7.) The Art of War by Sun Tsu (eBook – Audio Book) – “to learn that the act of killing fellow humans can be raised to an art.”

8.) The Prince by Machiavelli (eBook – Audio Book) – “to learn that people not in power will do all they can to acquire it, and people in power will do all they can to keep it.”

Tyson concludes by saying: “If you read all of the above works you will glean profound insight into most of what has driven the history of the western world.”
Thanks bro.
 

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So MM - I'm curious - of all the wish list we gave you - what did u choose?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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