"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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So I hate talking on the phone. Bad thing? Good thing? Input welcomed.

Vice

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So I've started studying how to handle women again, and now I've found myself to really despise the phone.

I don't really like talking on it, because I often struggle to find things to say. But when I'm hanging out with a girl, we're always having interesting and profound conversations.

I now only use the phone to set up a date or hangout session, and if it's a first call after I meet a new chick, I'll talk for like ten minutes, then ask her out for a bite to eat or what have you.

I just can't stand sitting there talking to a piece of plastic when I could be doing other things, which include talking to her face to face.

Thoughts and opinions welcome. I'm not going to try to change my "phone game", I have better things to do.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Seriously, I'd like to now if this is a good idea or not.
 

Nygard

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I hate the phone either. So much that all my friends know they should not call me to the phone unless it's very urgent.
Just personal preference.
 

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If I pick up the phone to call someone, I have a list of things to talk about in mind.

I call them like this:

"Hi this is Desert Fox. I'm calling because of A, B, C."

Then I would go through A, B, C. When I'm done, I say bye and hang up.

If someone calls me to "chat" I tell them I'm doing well and I'm busy right now and I don't have time to chat. If someone calls me to whine about their problems I say, "don't worry, things will solve themselves" then I say bye I gotta go and hang up.



MY RULE: A PHONE IS A TOOL. NOT YOUR LIFE.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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guywhoneedshelp

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I started doing this...tell me this is AFC or whatever but it really cured my phone anxiety somewhat...

the problem I have with the phone is I never have a good reason to call a girl. It's almost as if I need to make up an excuse. Contrary to when calling a friend, I may have a question, want to meet up, whatever.

I started calling girls, random girls I number closed, had a class with, haven't talked to in forever, etc. As their number sat in my phone I would call them right when I was in bed, about to go to sleep, and as soon as they picked up I'd say "Good night"

They'd be like "what?" and I'd say "just called to say good night."

One girl even said "who is this" and I told her "if you have to ask then you arent ready to know yet." she then knew it was me because I had attended classes with her. We talked for an hour and 16 minutes that night.

Some girls are like "awwww" some girls are like "umm...ok" and one girl even started calling ME every now and then saying "i was lonely...and wanted to call you and say good night."

so basically by not giving a sh!t about what these chicks thought of me I'd call them to say good night and I learned a lot by doing it.

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Alle_Gory

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( . )( . ) said:
The phone is an instrument of the devil, created for chicks, faggots and men of weak character. Use them sparingly.
Bell would be rolling in his grave...

Alexander Graham Bell is most well known for inventing the telephone. He came to the U.S. as a teacher of the deaf, and conceived the idea of "electronic speech" while visiting his hearing-impaired mother in Canada. This led him to invent the microphone and later the "electrical speech machine" -- his name for the first telephone.

Vice: Yeah I do the same thing. I don't care for the phone. I like to plan things face to face. I use the phone for directions, and quick reminders after.
 

Desert Fox

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guywhoneedshelp said:
I started doing this...tell me this is AFC or whatever but it really cured my phone anxiety somewhat...

the problem I have with the phone is I never have a good reason to call a girl. It's almost as if I need to make up an excuse. Contrary to when calling a friend, I may have a question, want to meet up, whatever.

I started calling girls, random girls I number closed, had a class with, haven't talked to in forever, etc. As their number sat in my phone I would call them right when I was in bed, about to go to sleep, and as soon as they picked up I'd say "Good night"

They'd be like "what?" and I'd say "just called to say good night."

One girl even said "who is this" and I told her "if you have to ask then you arent ready to know yet." she then knew it was me because I had attended classes with her. We talked for an hour and 16 minutes that night.

Some girls are like "awwww" some girls are like "umm...ok" and one girl even started calling ME every now and then saying "i was lonely...and wanted to call you and say good night."

so basically by not giving a sh!t about what these chicks thought of me I'd call them to say good night and I learned a lot by doing it.

Discuss...
probably the gayest thing i've ever read of someone doing. are you sure you have a penis?
 

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lol vice...i called u that one night about the football game and the girl. whats up dude.


and try calling a girl for the first time or at all...after uve done something fun. dont call if uve been sitting around ur house watching tv not talking to anyone for a while.

calling after something fun....like right after. she will sense that ur a fun guy,....then tell her she can tag along next time u do it again.

boom u got a date she cant turn down...all girls like fun right?
 
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