Ive been seeing this girl for like a month. Ive come to find out after she talked to my friend last night that she thinks Im clingy (she calls me everyday, I barley call her), she claims I like her more than she likes me but still likes me, and Im jealous (i call her out when shes texting some dude she met the night before at the bar while we are eating dinner, shame on me). I so want to call her out on this but thats probably not good. Im thinking i might just simply not answer her phone/texts for a day or two. She is going to know somethings up. What should i say to her if she asks me. I dont want her to know i know what she said but I would rather but her through the ringer a little bit for talkin like that.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
So I found out this girl I am dating is saying sh1t about me.
- Thread starter jigga23
- Start date
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Reyaj
Master Don Juan
Dog this girl is a trick..... Everyone is going to say to next which is obviously what you should eventually do. Still its always good to get some sex out of it.... so basically become a total player and act like she is insignifcant, start spinning other plates... I gauratnee this girl will be on your junk.... bang her until you are bored and NEXT!
Rebound Material
Master Don Juan
wait wait...and you're apparently the one clingy? She's staying at your place and has the nerve to go and talk sh!t? Sounds to me like shes using you for shelter.jigga23 said:
This so called saying "sh1t about you" its pretty harmless stuff. Women who talk to their friends will often ridicule some type of male only behaviour they find in their boyfriends and exaggerate. If there was some malicious intent then I would be concerned but this girl is just venting and blabbing to the night.jigga23 said:
The real test is how she treats you when she is with you.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Yea i know its not so bad stuff but I dont like the fact that she thinks shes above me which she is clearly not. when we are together its mixed. she obviously thinks shes got me. Usually we kiss a lot hold hands etc.
but last night she got p1ssed cause i called her out for texting a dude she met the night before which is bs to me. that just says im in the pool with other guys which doesnt fly well with me. and last night my windshield got punched in and all she can say is its fine babe and went back to sleep. she is defiantley getting too comfortable.
what im planning to do is not answer a phone/text tonight nor call her and see if she calls tomorrow. shell ask why and ill just say soemthing came up and sorry for not getting back to her and act all normal and see what she does.
but last night she got p1ssed cause i called her out for texting a dude she met the night before which is bs to me. that just says im in the pool with other guys which doesnt fly well with me. and last night my windshield got punched in and all she can say is its fine babe and went back to sleep. she is defiantley getting too comfortable.
what im planning to do is not answer a phone/text tonight nor call her and see if she calls tomorrow. shell ask why and ill just say soemthing came up and sorry for not getting back to her and act all normal and see what she does.
That is smooth, that will sure show her and put her back in her place!jigga23 said:
I hope this dating situation with this girl is not serious because she sure doesn't view it that way. Whatever you like it or not she is dating you and also exploring her options, something that you should be doing as well.
I don't know what is the deal with her sleeping at your house for 3 weeks. Maybe you are seeing her too much and as a result she has gotten a bit too comfortable and alot less interested.
SickAgain
Senior Don Juan
Listen to yourself. She's got you playing games. If you start playing games it kinda says that you're not in control but would like to be. That means you've lost value, or the upper hand. I say you re-evaluate this relationship for what it is, a big joke. Get some sex, treat her like sh!t, and move on while trying to bang all her friends and family members.
SmoothTalker
Master Don Juan
Probably time to move on.
I disagree that it's more important how she acts when she's around you (if you want anything more than just sex).
The problem is girls are very heavily influenced by friends, and her friends are getting a one sided, fairly negative picture of you.
After a while of hearing this, they start disliking you, and generally a girl will not be with a guy her friends don't like. It's like a feedback system, she tells her friends ****, then they start saying **** back to her based on what she's said, and so on.
I disagree that it's more important how she acts when she's around you (if you want anything more than just sex).
The problem is girls are very heavily influenced by friends, and her friends are getting a one sided, fairly negative picture of you.
After a while of hearing this, they start disliking you, and generally a girl will not be with a guy her friends don't like. It's like a feedback system, she tells her friends ****, then they start saying **** back to her based on what she's said, and so on.
Yah man. spot on. She got you playing games. If you know you are doing the right thing by you, why change? And this friend...is this a male friend of yours? She may just be downplaying you so she can hook up with your boy. You know...make you seem weak and like she will leave just so she can get some ass and then stay with you in your crib. Spin plates...and give her a firm move out date.SickAgain said:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
fvck i cant help but give in. she called me today actually twice before i called her back. she was acting all normal and i kind of mentioned somethign was said but she was like well lets go out etc. same sh1t she says every week. its too hard to ignore her.
Rebound Material
Master Don Juan
i can only imagine...you're letting her stay at your pad! STOP THAT!jigga23 said:
Someone Much cooler
Senior Don Juan
i would introduce her to my friends after i slept with her, i would make her put me on to her friends. I would maker her buy groceries, wash clothes, feed pets(even the nasty biting one), i would "need" her for gas $$$ when "we" went out, she would have to cover my boys or me and herself. I would pound her pvssy relentlessly and unmercifully...helll i would go so far as to point out other girls i "admired". This is how we do a smutty bird in philly.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
stonetowers
Don Juan
- Joined
- May 24, 2008
- Messages
- 34
- Reaction score
- 1
If this were me even if she were staying at my place,in my mind,It would already be over and I'd be talking to another girl because it sounds to me your too close to getting one itis .Kick this girl to the curb.She wasn't your responsibility before you met,she shouldn't be now.
Someone Much cooler
Senior Don Juan
I still say pass her around ur friends. She dont seem like GF material, u might cud make/save sum $$$. make her carry her own(and occasionally urs) weight
true romance
Don Juan
why do you think there are smart people and dumb people...just the way and the world is made of...
some people need to fall 3 or 4 times until they learn...
some people need to fall 3 or 4 times until they learn...
Tha Realnezz
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Sep 12, 2004
- Messages
- 1,352
- Reaction score
- 8
jigga23 said:
Son,that ***** doesnt respect you at all.Dump her...
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.