So I've been dating my current gf for over a year now. However recently we live far apart (about 1000miles) because of some personal stuff that I've got going on. Recently unemployed, homeless, etc. The move is only supposed to be about 3 months (didn't want to be homeless in winter) and I'm moving back. I ended up feeling very horny and it's stronger than usual. Maybe it's because of all of the women looking better than usual (I'm down south where the weather is unbelievable). I ended up meeting with an old flame (never ****ed until now) and ended up sleeping with her thus "cheating" on my gf in the other state. I deeply regret it (the sex was f*cking bad) & haven't told the gf. It really feels like I'm starting to go insane (the guilt is eating me alive). I don't know what to do. I understand the concept of "spinning plates" but like I said the guilt is eating me alive. Advice is greatly needed right now...
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
So I cheated now what?
- Thread starter ProDJ26
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Never admit anything to the gf.
Which was reason for the move now I have a place and employed
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Lozboss
Master Don Juan
Don't tell her.
However, this teaches you a valuable lesson- don't be a scumbag.
However, this teaches you a valuable lesson- don't be a scumbag.
l e g e n d a r y
Don Juan
As stated above, focus on making money and getting your financial game in order first, women are a FAR second. If you want your gf to break up with you and hate you and possibly develop trust issues with men for the rest of her life, then go ahead and tell her, some would say its the right thing to do, but as I mentioned here, there are many drawbacks to being completely honest.. even for her benefit, not just yours so that you "get away with it". I'd look at it as a life lesson.. if you're going to regret something later.. don't do it. Also, if you decide to not tell her (which is what I would do), to alleviate some of your guilt, realize this fact.. in any monogamous relationship, including marriages, at some point in the relationship, at least once.. one partner cheats on the other.. 75% of the time. This is from a study done, so it's probably actually higher than 75%. I don't think humans were designed to be monogamous so open relationships may be a good solution
She's your girlfriend. Not your wife. You don't owe her any loyalty and don't need to explain a goddamn thing. If you need something to feel bad about then think about the financial situation you're currently in. Get yourself out of that.
Thanks everyone for the replies I've decided to keep my mouth shut. Hell at this point it feels like it didn't even happen.
Sadly but true. After all whose to say she hasn't cheated on me? Not worried about this anymore thanks again guys I appreciate your input