"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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So I am trying out super nice guy text game

Chamber36

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Met chick on sunday night.
Talked about basic stuff, got to know each other a bit.

Was kinda piqued when she mentioned starting a family in the future. Wouldn't mind a woman who can think ahead.

Anyways, got the number when she left, and we said we would meet up again next weekend.

I have exams next week, so I texted her the next day. Wanted to make it quick because I might prefer to meet on thursday and study this weekend.

So I sent her something like:

"Hey babe how was your little after party? ;) x Chamber"

Then she is like: "haha nothing special"
"just went to sleep :p"

So now, the next day, I send her "hah nice. I'm really tired from school now. Hope to see you soon xxx"

That's basically it.

I dunno whether I'm coming across confident or desperate, lol.

Just the fact I'm posting about it already proves that she's got the upper hand, theoretically. But my text game is just so atrocious I have no clue what to really do.

I just wanted to keep in touch, make sure she doesn't forget me u know.

Oh well.

Haven't really gotten any numbers from chicks, including a reply text, for months. I must be super beta right now by those standards. Have no plates. Just fvck *****s. They cost me all my cash. Bought some clothes last weekend though, new Red Wings, and 3 t-shirts. I guess the confidence from those helped me to snag the number.

It's just sad my text game is so horrible. Feel like it's time to just have a moment of retrospection.

I have exams soon, so no real time to focus on girls. But I'm still urged to go to the club several times a week, either to drink or to flirt and meet girls. But my text game is horrible. I guess that's why I did the blatantly obvious ass-kisser game via text. It really works much better IRL than on the phone.

I still think she might reply. And if she doesn't I still think her IL might be high enough that I could call/text her on thursday or this weekend to meet up.

I'm not going to get emotionally upset over the girl, but I have nothing to lose, and I kinda show it in my game as I just want highly interested chicks nowadays. I still dig her though, so I hope it leads to something.

Either way I'll continue my life of studying and working out, then drinking all summer, I suppose.
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You want to be able to say to a chick of interest, these words: "What do you Want from me!?" You want to be angry that she's bothering you.
 

jurry

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Too early to be a nice guy.

Two obvious problems:

1. Dont say hey babe (really ever, but especially if you havent fvcked her) or ask how her xyz was. You're not her mom, you got shît to do you have your own life.

2. Dont say "hope to see you soon". You are a man, YOU make things happen. You tell her what you want and make it happen.

If you want to be a "nice guy" over texting then just shoot the shît for a bit, tease her a little, then ask her out.

There is such a thing as beta game but only when combined with some form of alphaness, this is essentially push pull. There are chicks that actually like nice guy betas but they arent common and they will likely just dominate you and tell you what to do all the time/take all your money.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dgwizdal

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Ugh I don't even know where to begin. Read up on banter and then apply accordingly.

Instead of calling her babe call her "trouble." Chicks eat it up.
 

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Chamber36 said:
I just wanted to keep in touch, make sure she doesn't forget me u know.
Keep sending her texts like that and she will forget you deleting your number. Calling her "babe" already makes you look creepy instead of nice. Why are you even doing this? If you're going to text, make the text be worth something, not something she is going to delete and not want to reply back losing all interest.
 

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You're approaching this all wrong. Sub-conciously you've already put her above you for some reason.

Remember to maintain some mystery, be a challenge. When you get a girl's #, leave it with I'll call you, so she is excited to hear from you, but doesn't necessarily know if/when you will reach out.

Also when you text, send messages with a purpose.

Telling her you're tired from school - decreases interest

Instead tell her something interesting and when you ask her out, have a specific plan laid out. Lets meet up Sunday @X:XX time at the 5th Avenue Brewery.

That text will get you a reply, whether she can or can't and you will know where her interest level stands.

In your case, I would leave it alone for a few days at least and then hit her up out of the blue and if it goes well, set up a time to hang out.










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Pimp-sicle said:
Telling her you're tired from school - decreases interest
I'm going to highlight this right here^

Don't complain to women. You either come of as one of their FRIENDS and/or a weakling beta.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Chamber36

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Yea you are all right.

I will just call her if/when I have time.
 

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Stop this now. Call and ask her out on a date. Make sure she understands it's a 'date', not some ubiquitous meet-up. If she says no... move on.
 
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