"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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So...I accidentally flaked....

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Genos

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So I had a breakfast appointment with a girl this morning. In hindsight, this was pretty dumb, as I rarely eat breakfast because I get up so late (11pm or so).

Anyway, I stayed up until 7am goofing off with some friends, and we were gonna meet at the dining hall at 9:30. Predictably, I didn't get up in time >_>

I sent her a few texts asking to reschedule later that day, and another couple later + called her phone, but no response at all (maybe overkill on the reparations/apology front). I kinda feel like a ****; I've been flaked on/stood up, and it doesn't feel good. Doing it to someone else really drove this home for me, I feel pretty bad >_>.

We were kind of friends/acquaintances (somewhere in between), and it's not as though she was my dream girl or I was insanely attracted to her (which, in self-reflection, is probably why I couldn't get up. Reverse Brad-Pitt test - if I had a date with Megan Fox/Emma Watson, would I have overslept? Hell no), but it still hurts.

Crap I feel like an *******...any advice or anything guys?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Best thing you could do imo was send her ONE text:

I'm really sorry I let you down, I still want to meetup with you though, but I'd understand if you don't.
 
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LMFAO

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1) Don't do breakfast dates, WTF.
2) Send her one text.
3) Don't feel so guilty it happens. I've flaked on girls and if they into you enough they do sometimes reschedule.
 
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