So how do i know if i'm in the friend zone?

[Igetit!]

Chill out man. Calm down. Look, the friendzone thing is easy. If you fall into the friendzone over and over again it is because you are acting and behaving like a friend to them. In other words,yeah,it's your fault. That's the bad news.The good news is that you have the power to change,and believe me,it's easy to fix.No problem,I promise you that man. I would break it down for you right now,but I have to go to work.But don't worry,you'll get it straighten out.

 

[Jokerlsk]

I figured out whats wrong with me. I put other peoples feelings b4 my own. I would rather her not feel bad and still talk to her even though it hurts me than not talk to her at all and hurt her. I don't think i can fix this though.. I hate hurting other people. It just makes me feel so bad

 

[PRMoon]

Why don't you just accept the fact that she views you as a friend and try doing the same? Why make yourself miserable by spending time with her dreaming of a relationship. Chances are you'll be alot happier because your feelings of intamacy for her will fade and you'll likely happen across somebody else. Having a fixation for one person is not healthy and should not dictate your emotions unless you are married to the person.

 

[Jokerlsk]

Well, i'm fine w/ that PRMoon. I just hate the fact that she actually really does like me... And i'm not joking she's told me this like 5 times. I'm not going to wait for her like she wants me to though...

 

[Igetit!]

She told you 5 times that she likes you? But how does she like you,romantically or just as a friend? Do you know which way?

 

[Jokerlsk]

she likes me romantically... but she has been hurt alot. Like every guys she's dated

 

[PRMoon]

Forget that. When a girl actually likes you romantically, it's ultra hard to get rid of them. And I don't mean getting them out of your head, I'm talking physical interaction. You should never, and I mean NEVER spend so much time natrually with a girl that you see and talk to her without even thinking too much of it unless she's prone to giving it up to you every other time you two see each other. The longer you listen and believe them without major signs that she's interested in being more then "Just friends", the longer she's going to string out the friend with potential back up ability she's putting on you now.

Girls need some kind of emotional outlet. It's almost hard wired into their psyche. Despite what ever it is she's feeding you verbaly, you are playing a role for her subcoscious. You've always been there and you always will be. You listen and give a guys perspective (Although slanted) you help her build on positive thoughs as opposed to pain and she likes that. She believes very strongly that by changing the situation ie hooking up with you, then that outlet may be lost forever. She won't stand for that as long as you let the cycle continue. Look for someone else with romantic possiblilty and become less available. Document what happenes after that occurs. You will be very suprised.

 

[Jokerlsk]

Dude, i'm not in for sex. I'm only 16...... I just like this girl. I don't really understand what your saying. lol

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

Dude, i'm not in for sex. I'm only 16...... I just like this girl. I don't really understand what your saying. lol

Lol, tell her if she likes you so much then to show you. If she's not looking for a bf then tell her that's okay, you're not looking for a gf either and then give her a nice smile.

I don't know what else to tell you though, most of the high school girls I've hooked up with have been after I graduated.

 

[Jokerlsk]

Dude, that will work bucket. I'm gonna try that next time.

 

[PRMoon]

Dude, i'm not in for sex. I'm only 16...... I just like this girl. I don't really understand what your saying. lol

Fault's to you for not posting your age kiddo

I'll dumb it down for you though. She doesn't want to lose you as a friend so she's afraid to make that next step. Since you're so young, it really doesn't matter though, you can stay in her orbit, so to speak, but keep in mind it's never to early to diversify. You need to start talkin gto other girls as well to get yourself in the habit of not being roped by just one.

Is that clear?

 

[Jokerlsk]

Yeah man. haha sorry for not posting my age. My bad .
I totally understand what your saying htough.
So do you guys think i should still be her friend while looking for other girls? How would you handle it?

 

[PRMoon]

Alot easier then you'd think. I've actually taken steps to reduce girls from hook ups to...spinnging plates, i guess in accordance with DJ protocol. It's super easy and usually they end up liking you more. In essence LJBFing her benifits you because you've taken away her main power of attraction. This typically builts intrest but if it doesn't, who cares because she's just a friend anyway right?

Simple in practice and easy to institued if you actually try.

 

[Jokerlsk]

PRMoon, you are the man. I'm taking what you say to the heart. I think i have a case of oneitis for this girl and i need to break that. I'm not gonna give her the power lol.

 

[PRMoon]

And so my time on this site is well spent.

Just remember, you can either spend time trying to make yourself care free and happy in life or miserable and tied down. But you always have a choice

 

[Jokerlsk]

lol alright man. You have any tips on how i can lose alot of my attraction for her?

 

[PRMoon]

The best way to strip your attraction is to find something about her you don't like and focus on that. It's the same with getting over an ex. If you think about the things you don't like instead of focusing on things you do like or want.

It also helps to start looking for some one else. Even at a young age, there has to be at least one other girl around you with potential. Start talking her up and see where that goes. Live the dream man, this girl stuff is easy once you get the swing of it.

 

[Jokerlsk]

Dude this will work. But later on if i want to try a relationship w/ her how would i go about doing this? Especially since she doesn't want a bf right now