"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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so here is what happened

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I have cox cable. They provide me with internet cable, calbe tv, and telephone service which I pay for monthly. They way they have it set up is that they bill you in advance. They send out a bill on the 22nd for the upcoming month and you are required to pay that within 7 days or what not.

So about 3 weeks ago I come home. My internet cable is down, my tv is turned off but my phone is working. I call up cox cable and they say I owe them 400+ dollars and to turn it back on I need to make a payment. I say to them, but ive already sent in a check 2 weeks ago, you didnt recieve it? They say no and that I can pay them online via debit card. Now normally i would log on to the internet and check my online bank statement but since i dont have internet i cant do that. I admit im not very good at keeping track of my checking needs. Anyways I agree, and pay them the full amount I owe them which was like 457$.

The next day I go to my bank and see that the check i sent them has been cashed. I call cox immediately and say I have been charged twice. They say they havent recieved it, nor is it credited to my account. I bring in a copy front and back of the check they cashed to their mani office. They say it was probably deposited into someone elses account and that it will take about 1 week for their account people to find my money and then they will send me a check back.

A week goes by and I hear nothing from them. I go into the office again and speak with the lady I spoke with the first time. She tells me to stop coming in and that she will call me in a few days when she hears something. Now another week goes by and I call the same lady and she says they are looking into it, this takes time. So now its been 3.5 weeks, I have heard nothing and every time I call they transfer me to an automated machine which gives me the same stupid options every time.

Now im wondering what my options are. Is it too early or is it even worth it to start thinking about a lawyer? Should I wait longer for my money? What do you think is a reasonable time frame for me to get my money back seeing as how it was their mistake.

anyhow just a broed person at work this monday morning venting his frustrations.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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give them time, they get A LOT OF CHECKS...trying to traice it all takes time....try and keep paper records of everything. Give them couple of months, and then go in screaming....

also, i would suggest that when every you are paying bills YOU DO NOT MAIL CHECKS IN... they got people working ther who barly graduated highschool, sh!t is bound to happen. What I do Is eater pay it over then net, or go to the bank in person (with the bill) and pay it there. Snail mail can get lost, stolen, f'ed-up. this way you have a paper record of the s!it paid, (especially when ther is a such a large sum involved).

so when they come back to you, you can shuve the paper in their face and tell them to piss off:D
 

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Ya I notcied that half the people there cant speak English. Sigh..ok Ill wait :(
 

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The first thing that comes to mind is filing a police report. It's free, it starts a paper trail, and it will definitely get Cox to take notice and work harder to finding out what happened. You could also file a report with the BBB. One month is more than enough time for them to rectify the matter - while I don't doubt that they intend on refunding your money, I am wondering why it's taking them so long.

In the future, pay your bills by debit card. It's easier, quicker, and more secure.
 

Giovanni Casanova

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Call them or go in one more time. Tell them you're walking out with a check or you're having a nice little chat with the state attorney general's office.

If you don't walk out with a check, call the state attorney general's office.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by diablo
The first thing that comes to mind is filing a police report. It's free, it starts a paper trail, and it will definitely get Cox to take notice and work harder to finding out what happened. You could also file a report with the BBB. One month is more than enough time for them to rectify the matter - while I don't doubt that they intend on refunding your money, I am wondering why it's taking them so long.

In the future, pay your bills by debit card. It's easier, quicker, and more secure.
Do this, and do it right away. They had a f'in month.
 

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I agree, do not wait any more. Your story actually reminds me of Office Space for some reason...
 
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