so here is how it went

[judoguy]

So she came to pick me up because I cant have a car at my school till second semester.... she got a little lost on the way but I made sure to calm her down... " its ok, no big deal, you will be fine"

She finally gets her and our original plan was to walk around and get food, but I was hungry so I was like " lets get food now" she complied and we went to fridays.

Fridays was good ... just some small talk, c+F conversation etc

Came back to my school and she joked that she wanted to see the library where I always am because I am a nerd... I said ok and brough here there

Naughy ninja was right and she got bored quick, I sense this and figured its time to end this first date...

I brought her to her car and was just gonna giver her a hug goodbye... I gave her the hug and she got like really upset... I didnt know what the deal was

I realized my shirt was inside her car so I grabbed it and gave her a goodbye hug again. This time she went in for the kiss ! she was kissing me and i slipped some tounge in and we kissed for abouty 5 seconds. I wanted to leave her wanting more and I also didnt feel comfortable about kissing her since we were in a parking lot with littled kids and people from my school all around it was awkward. I pulled away and she tried to go back in for the kiss and I pulled back.

I told her " there is little kids here" .... she goes " they will be alright"

I just give her a long lasting hug and kiss on the cheek and am like thanks bye

and just walk back to my room

Lessons learned
__ even if a girl seems cultured and smart tours of historical **** are still boring to them. Even though you are showing them something new and fascinating to you, it still doesent tickle their fancy.

-- even if a girl is acting reserved, she probably still wants the kiss

-- girls expect you to sexually escalate... if you dont they think there is somethign wrong with them

 

[judoguy]

what is next step?

 

[Naughty Ninja]

Let her initiate next. Don't chase her. Sounds like it went okay. There's a million things people will say that you "could've done better". But that's neither here nor there at this point. Go after other girls online and if possible for you in real life. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. This way you will become much more relaxed and not so nervous.

If you've got something good planned in the future, invite her by phone call. Not right away. Wait a little while so she can possibly miss you and think about you a little more. Then TELL her you will be at so and so and to meet you there.

Try to escalate a little more on the sexual side next time. Like "Your hair smelled pretty good last time. You washed it for me. Two points for you!"

See if she subtly escalates from that comment. But ride your brakes even if she pushes for more. (I don't know her so you don't want to start going too far even if she does as she could be testing you and dangling the scent of the pvssy to see if she can wrap you around her finger and go back to playing cat and mouse.)

It's a balance of being sexual but not desperate for her. Some of them will play along with that to see how "eager' you are and will use it to manipulate you. Don't be a puppet.

So far so good.

what I don't understand is how in the hell you are in a Military School and a judoguy (both should inspire confidence) yet are worried about ONE girl?

 

[judoguy]

she texted me and said " what do you think? " .... im not sure how to respond... maybe... " I think I am tired....haha"

idk weird question

a judoguy and in a military school? I do not understand how either of them relate to being socially savvy and good with women?

 

[Poonani Maker]

she texted me and said " what do you think? " .... im not sure how to respond... maybe... " I think I am tired....haha"

No! Say, "I think you have potential..."

 

[Iceberg]

No! Say, "I think you have potential..."

Exactly. Playfully make it seem like she's slowly passing tests. "I think you did alright. You just might get a 2nd date out of this."

Don't do it in a douchey way, of course. Just have fun. And don't get caught up in these long text conversations. Respond. Say, "Catch you later." and get back to her in a few days. Don't be overly-available.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

Going off the "nerdy" library part of the date...escalate from being seen as possibly boring.

Text her: I think you are nerdy! Next time we can be 'nerdy' together! And I'm NOT talking about the library! lol ...and end the convo. Let her do the wanting and worrying.


One would tend to think being in a military school and taking martial arts would give someone confidence in oneself. Then again...What do I know..

 

[judoguy]

haha dam you guys are awesome help ! anyway I texted her and said

I think you have potential...

she said " potential? haha so i just need to change a few things?"

 

[Naughty Ninja]

Just reply: I'll let you know in the future Ms. Blue eyes (or whatever color she has if you can remember.) and END the convo for now. And or use the nerdy text. And end it for now...

 

[jophil28]

You may hear her say or text any of the following at some stage -

" You are so full of yourself."
" Do you speak to all women like this ."
" You are such a dyck ."
" Why don't you treat me like other guys."
" I hate you..."

and so on...

IF she replies with any of those, you are doing it right.