"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Tips? : ) He's a bit of a tool factory so this shouldn't be too hard, honestly.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Cheers buddy. I just started going out with a girl attached to a boyfriend of 2 years. Lol. I want to know how you guys deal with the "boyfriend disclaimer" crap. We're chatting online and was asking her if she had plans tomorrow, then she replied "going out with bf :)". It was like a sh!t test to me, not really experienced in this area, so yeah, how would DJs normally respond to that to pass the sh!t test?

Sorry to sidetrack a bit. :)
 

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More details?
 

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ok, here are details

(she's easily an 8.5, by the way, and that's only when she's dressed down). We talked a bit about Mexico City the first day in religions class (one of the early travel spots I want to hit since it happens to be far less expensive than, say, Paris). I'm actually planning on backpacking in that area within a few years, so this does have purpose besides getting laid.

We should be meeting a half hour before class sometime next week. I DID call her at one point, but she sent me a text afterward telling me to keep it to e-mail/Facebook since she "has a jealous boyfriend and he would not at all be pleased to see messages from a male on her cell phone". Confident partners don't act like that, so I'm sure this won't be that hard.
 

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I went out with her the first time yesterday. I knew her online and she happened to stay in my area. So i asked her out a couple of times but she flaked on me, but she was like saying "Aww. Aren't you sad i'm always rejecting you." I became alpha and replied "Nah, don't really care, just asking." She went surprised and said okay.

I had a very C&F attitude all the way like i usually am nowadays, plus i looked into her eyes every time i talked to her. I slowly picked up on the kino, playing around with her hair just a little, putting my arm around her shoulder, then proceeded to touch her hands. Not really serious kino but some, for a start. I'm surprised she did not do anything to resist my moves. At the end of the day, when i was going to leave, i was close to her face, she smiled, and we said our goodbyes. Then, i turned my back and she stroked my head a little. I looked back at her eyes, and left.

Well, i'm thinking she has buyer's regret as she let me kino her, and a little attraction going on. Then she mentions that she's going out with her boyfriend. What's your take on how to reply the next time?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You guys can't set yourselves up as 'the other guy', you have to make her think of her bf as 'the other guy'.
 
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Pregnant Girl's Ex-Boyfriend Shoots Her and Kills Himself

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Published: April 12, 1987

LEAD: A pregnant Bronx teen-ager, who was shot once in the head by her former boyfriend before he killed himself Friday, was listed in critical condition yesterday at Lincoln Hospital, the hospital and the police said.

A pregnant Bronx teen-ager, who was shot once in the head by her former boyfriend before he killed himself Friday, was listed in critical condition yesterday at Lincoln Hospital, the hospital and the police said.

The girl, Myra Perez, 14 years old, of East Tremont Avenue, who was four months pregnant, was shot while in her family's apartment at 7 A.M. Friday by the former boyfriend, David Rivera, 18, who killed himself with a shot from a .32-caliber pistol, a Police Department spokesman, Sgt. Norris Hollomon, said.

He said the couple had broken up and Mr. Rivera was trying to resume the relationship.

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Jealous Man Shoots Ex-Girlfriend, Kills Boyfriend

Monday, August 4, 2008 – updated: 10:34 am EDT August 4, 2008
APOPKA, Fla. -- A woman who was shot and left to die on the side of a busy Orange County road was under heavy police guard. Investigators said the victim's jealous ex-boyfriend opened fire on her and another man along SR-429, just south of SR-441 Sunday night.

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Rugby player 'killed girlfriend'
Rebecca Spry
Rebecca Spry, 18, was found dead at her home in Glyncoch
A jealous boyfriend strangled his girlfriend after she spoke to an old flame at a Boxing Day party, Cardiff Crown Court has heard.

Caerphilly rugby player Jordan Rees, 24, is accused of murdering travel agent Rebecca Spry, 18, in her mother's home in Glyncoch, Pontypridd.

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Need I show you anymore?
 

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^ I lol'd at that post so bad. Your lack of logic is staggering. Are you seriously saying that since you have supplied 3 (!) cases of people dying from this (one from 20 years ago), that he should seriously consider stepping back from that reason alone?

****, maybe I shouldn't drive my car anymore because people die from it (and far more than jealous boyfriends). lol
 

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jealous boyfriends are annoying
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Do you want to get into a physical altercation? How about having some creep stalk you and your new trophy? What about a bullet right in your fukkin head?

Come on bro...this is elementary...dont mess with a dudes girl like that. If she leaves him and comes for you thats one thing...actively trying to jack someones girl is greazy as hell and will only lead to trouble...ESPECIALLY from some jealous clown.

Use your head son, is it really worth all the consequences?
 

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It's not worth the trouble, but if you are spinning other plates and want to do this on the side, the general thing is to deconstruct her positive views of her boyfriend and associate those positive views with you.

We keep saying it's not cool to steal people's girls, as if women were property. Please.
 

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If your girl gets taken from you then she was never yours to begin with.Why would the guy want to grovel over a some ***** who doesn't know what she wants but is stringing him along anyways?Because she has a p***y?Big whoop,so does every woman on the planet.Fight for a woman,a good woman,but don't fight over a B!tch.:cool:
 
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worship said:
^ I lol'd at that post so bad. Your lack of logic is staggering. Are you seriously saying that since you have supplied 3 (!) cases of people dying from this (one from 20 years ago), that he should seriously consider stepping back from that reason alone?

****, maybe I shouldn't drive my car anymore because people die from it (and far more than jealous boyfriends). lol
Worship, I have been a bouncer and a lecturer at the West Sacrament Police department.

You obviously don't know much about the world. I have seen physical violence just over a woman in night clubs almost every weekend for 2 years when I bounced.

I have talked to officers and you can do a study yourself on how many fights occur over this same stupidity of messing with a guys woman.

I showed you only 3. I was looking for a recent story in my town and found those and just stuck em up.

You nerds need to live in the real world. When your mommies are not there to tell you to turn the other cheek and some guy is coming at you with intent in his eyes then you start screaming.

I have seen this way too often.

Having been knifed and I still carry the scar down the left side of my abdomen and having had a husband (a vegas big wig) tell his wife he could have me killed for a few thousand dollars, I think my point is pretty valid.

If you read the title "Jealous Boyfriend", then you should of woken up. Another problem with guys that are too smart is that you don't have any survival instincts. You think studying BJJ is going to help you dodge a bullet or face a real armed angry pissed off male.

Maybe you should stick to your video games instead.

If a female has a man...leave that beayatch alone. I learned this the hard way to be a honorable player.

With a sea of available single women it is just plain stupid and ego driven.

This poster is thinking with his little chubby below instead of his brain. Not one of you guys said anything about his CRUSH on the female. Only a fool with a crush would go after a girl in that position. What ever happened to the against oneitis or has this site slid down even further.

If you guys claim to be Don Juans then you need to learn to think with your heads not your dycks and quit letting your ego's run you like puppets.

Have some class about your game.

Lastly it when fools don't manage their posts. This poster posted up wanting advice and then took off. Heard what he wanted to hear and left.


If he gets his azz beat down it's his own fault.
 

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To me, there is nothing that screams of more desperation than trying to steal another man's girl.

As if she is the only girl you can get. as a Dj you should not be afraid of using better judgment in a potentially dangerous situation. Just because she show interest that means she's the only girl you should be going after? She is not the only girl that matters, and not a very good one at that. Like supreme said, what ever happened to no oneitis? you are operating on a crush on this chick

I know you can do better than this. Surely a women who is willing to go behind her bf's back and date you is NOT the most quality girl you can get.

If anything you should keep this chick as a backburner option while you pursue more eligible women. if she leaves him, great, but don't sit and try to make her leave him. that's just dirty, not to mention a huge waste of time to which you could've found a much better single girl to get with.

why not go after the tons of single women who roam the earth? It's far less trouble and you don't have to worry about Jealous boyfriends
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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