"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Man, all last week I felt on top of the world. A cold hits me and I feel like crap, like I've never even been to this site. Are these setbacks normal? What do I do to get back into DJ mode??
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Eat well. Lift Weights. Run. Take a natural anti-depressant like Sam-E or 5-htp. Losing confidence and feeling like crap is usually due to lack of seratonin. It's sort of like oil for your brain. After being in a pretty depressed state for a while I'm coming back into my self now and feeling on top of things.

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Man, all last week I felt on top of the world. A cold hits me and I feel like crap, like I've never even been to this site. Are these setbacks normal? What do I do to get back into DJ mode??
 

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Riegs said:
Eat well. Lift Weights. Run. Take a natural anti-depressant like Sam-E or 5-htp. Losing confidence and feeling like crap is usually due to lack of seratonin. It's sort of like oil for your brain. After being in a pretty depressed state for a while I'm coming back into my self now and feeling on top of things.
Seratonin?

Wow, you sound like you have a whole background in NeuroScience.

On the other hand, it could just be that you've read up a lot on this stuff....

Please enlighten us (the laymen) a bit more about how dong little things such as this can easily get you back into the whole ultra-confident Don Juan mindset! :up:
 

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So easy to get out of AFC

LMFAO !!!!!!!!!!

Dude, DON'T do that. DON'T buy something to make you feel better, waste of money! And plus it's the loosers way out. YOU caused the problem, YOU solve it.

Most of the times, you're just like "Ohh I'm depressed no one likes me" but that's crap. You feel bad and THEN you try to make it up by gaining approval, etc. You're going to find out, even if you do gain approval, that you STILL SUCK ass. You'll feel weird by thinking "WOW, everyone likes me, why don't I feel good?!" it has nothing to do with anything. You may feel good for some time, for ex. for some hours, maybe days, but something will happen, and you WILL feel bad again. It's good to know everyone likes you, but only a fool will rely on that to base his self esteem or hapiness.

You have to be happy just by yourself! :)

The best medicine is natural medicine. Try laughter! :yes:

Read some jokes, anything basiclly. (Even these boards work :D). FAKE laughter. It doesn't matter to your body if you're faking it, it still releases hormoes that make you feel good. Your mind may think it's wierd at first, but you'll see after a while that it makes sence, and it will make you in a mood to laugh more, and you'll start getting in the groove of things, as soon as you know it, you're laughing at everything and feeling great! :D

That's what I'm going to do when I'm depressed, it works wonders.

Other things that are good to release these chemicals are, of course, exercise. Exercise makes your body rockin' too and that is a boost of confidence and girls like it. It releases the same chemicals, I think.

But I have to emphasise my first tip, you won't know how awsome it is until you try it. (Half an hour would totally do to make a 180% spin. :yes: ).
 

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I'm sensing sarcasm. I don't think anywhere in my post I implied that taking "something" would put you in a more confident state of mind. For serious cases though, no amount of forced laughter will help when things that normally would be amusing no longer amuse you due to neurotransmitters not making the proper connections.

But let's face it, the condition your body is in will determine the effects on your mental state. If you eat crappy processed foods, lounge around all day and are not active, play video games etc... are you ever going to get yourself into a DJ mindset?

Contrast this with eating good foods, having a set routine each day, accomplishing physical tasks and exercising and doing other things that support positive body chemistry and you'll see a lot of improvement.

There is a difference, however between your body and your mind. Even with the best physical regimen you still have to use your mind, continue learning new things and keep challenging yourself to keep yourself from falling back into slumps. There's a great book by Dr. Amin called "Change Your Brain, Change Your Life" that I highly recommend.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I politley disagree sir! :p I can hardly call a depression a "serious case". People have cured diseases just with laughter!
When Norman Cousins was diagnosed with
the debilitating illness ankylospondylitis, the doctors told him
they could no longer help him and that he would live in excruciating
pain before he died. Cousins checked into a hotel room
and hired every funny movie he could find: the Marx Brothers,
Airplane and The Three Stooges, etc. He watched and rewatched
them over and over, laughing as hard and loud as he
could. After six months of this self-inflicted laughter therapy,
the doctors were amazed to find that his illness had been cometely
cured - the disease was gone! This amazing outcome
led to the publishing of Cousins' book, Anatomy of an Illness,
and the start of massive research into the function of endorphins.
Endorphins are chemicals released from the brain when
you laugh. They have a similar chemical composition to morphine
and heroin and have a tranquillising effect on the body,
while building the immune system. This explains why happy
people rarely get sick and miserable but complaining people
often seem to be ill.
Now THAT is inspiring, and a "serious" case! :D

The rest of the post I agree.

The OP is not in a serious case. He just had a mood swing. Cmon! I can tell it would help him. It's easy and free and fast. Before even considering buying depressants, I think everyone should try this at least once. :up:

I've found some docs in my pc about this subject, if someone wants me to post, tell!
 
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