So confused

[thestrength80]

This girl I know has recently been hanging around a lot with a guy she hooked up with. Now she recently has started to text me a lot and we have been hanging out more and more each day. She always tries to come see me a lot and flirts with me. The only problem is that the other guy gets mad at her all the time and they fight constantly, but she still hangs around with him more and their not even dating. I think she might like me and I've tried kino and other things when we hang out, but don't know where it's going. She likes to hang out with me, but doesn't like to make the other guy mad. Why is she putting up with this other guys crap when she wants to be around me? I'm nothing like him either. There must be something there because she ended up calling this other guy by my name at one point and he freaked on her. I have no idea what to think or how to make the right move without pushing her away. Any help at all it's really confusing to tell if she has any feelings for me. What is your guy's advice or opinions on this situation.

 

[BongDuy]

it sounds like she may be using you to fill a void that her current " bf" does not have. maybe shes using you because you're the "nice" guy?

 

[thestrength80]

so does that mean i don't have any chance? it really seems like she has feelings for me. She always tries to make me do things with her even sometimes when he's around and that really pisses him off. I just don't understand it right now

 

[Igetit!]

so does that mean i don't have any chance? it really seems like she has feelings for me. She always tries to make me do things with her even sometimes when he's around and that really pisses him off. I just don't understand it right now

Well to be honest,it just seems like she's using you to make the other guy jealous. Girls ALWAYS try to get guys to express some kind of emotion over them.




More than likely,the only time he shows any emotion at all concerning her is when she shows you attention.




She's doing this ON PURPOSE. I mean come on dude,you said that you and this other guy are nothing alike,yet she called him by your name?

This girl is a pro.




As far as you having any chance with her,I seriously doubt it,but to be absolutely sure a bit more info is needed.



Answer these questions:


1)How long have you known this girl?

2)How often do you two hangout or see each other?

3)Whenever you two talk,what do you talk about...Exactly?

4)HAVE YOU EVER ASKED HER OUT ON A DATE?



Please,PLEASE answer these questions AS ACCURATELY AS POSSIBLE.

 

[thestrength80]

1.) About a month

2.) I see her at least 3-4 times a day

3.) When we talk it can range from anything. Family, friends, personal matters, just about anything

4.) No I have not.

 

[Igetit!]

1.) About a month

2.) I see her at least 3-4 times a day

3.) When we talk it can range from anything. Family, friends, personal matters, just about anything

4.) No I have not.

Uh oh. In number 3 you said personal matters. You mean like problems she has in her life between family members or other people,like this guy for example.



Well that settles it. You have a ZERO PERCENT chance with her.



You're in what's commonly referred to here as "The Friend Zone",if you haven't already heard of it.




So let me get this straight: You've known her for a month,see her 3 to 4 times a day,talk to her about basically any and everything,and you've never asked her out.



Friendzone my friend. You're in the friend zone,which means you currently DO NOT HAVE (and most likely) will never EVER HAVE a chance of dating her.




You said she flirts with you. Yeah,and the flirting has a two-fold purpose.


1)It makes the other guy jealous/angry,which makes her feel good because she takes him being angry as him caring about her. And...



2)It keeps YOU HOOKED. As long as she keeps dangling that carrot in front of you,you'll continue to keep a small sliver of hope that you'll one day be able to date her.


Plus,she uses you as an emotional tampon.



So to answer your question,NO,you DO NOT have a chance with her.



But don't take my word for it. Go ahead and ask her out.


See what happens for yourself.