"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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So being attractive to females you have to have interesting hobbies

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So being attractive to females you have to have interesting hobbies ? What hobbies also how do you display or tell them etc?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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So being attractive to females you have to have interesting hobbies ? What hobbies also how do you display or tell them etc?
You have to be into and passionate about your own life. Take good care of yourself. I don't think you need to display the hobby or interest, but have some.
 

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No, to be attractive to females you have to have qualities they find attractive. Women don't care if you are a model train photographer or fisherman. What they care about is that you are padsionate about something and that your life is more than work, bar/pub, home. Also that you are capable of independence.
 

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So being attractive to females you have to have interesting hobbies ? What hobbies also how do you display or tell them etc?
Nobody gives a damn about what you do for fun. Women care about how much money you make, how handsome you are, how big of a d1ck you have. Invest into your career and your health.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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So being attractive to females you have to have interesting hobbies ? What hobbies also how do you display or tell them etc?
It sounds like you are simply trying to figure out the 'hobby formula' to attract pvssy. There's nothing wrong with that but it probably wont keep you a plate or LTR for the long run.
Plus, the problem with having 'fake hobbies' (hobbies that are intended to appear attractive) is that you probably wont be able to elaborate on them enough to be believable and/or you have to still find a female that finds that particular hobby interesting. You could always key off of what the female says interests her, and mirror that back - but this is essentially pandering to the female and probably isnt going to build self confidence and a sense of value in the long run. However, if you want to try this out, simply mirror her interests back to her and/or key off of something she says and throw a hobby out and see if she bites.

IMO having outside interests means you are able to initiate and participate in a wider net of conversation, and that is what helps you be more interesting.
Plus, you can build interest and attract kino when you have something in common with a female.
The trick is to find a hobby/hobbies that YOU enjoy, participate in that, and this becomes a real conversation piece. Even if it's simply things you have done one time - they are all relevant for conversation.
Finally, if you are looking for a partner, it's always better to find someone you share interests with. If you both ski, paddle board, salsa, do archery, these are things that bring you both joy and you can share, thus bringing the relationship some bonding by way of shared joy.
 
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I have a hobby that I won't mention here, but it is a huge drawing card to women and people in general. They see I am super passionate about it, highly dedicated, and deeply invested. Its fairly dangerous and puts me in the limelight often. You also have to be a hard worker, risk taker, competitive, have money, and have plenty of confidence to last. Women also realize they get in on the attention I receive once they are associated with me. My hobby is almost like instant celebrity status to the right woman.
 

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Nah, hobbies will keep you entertained and busy. You will seem interesting to women but, having a backbone is more attractive. Most guys have no backbone.

If your going to put something on display... Go for the frame/backbone. It's quick, it's easy, it's undeniable. And, it doesnt look like you are trying to prove anything.
 

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Hobbies/things you enjoy definitely help you not be so needy as well
 

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Hobbies might help attract girls but they really are for you. If you just want hobbies to impress some girl then what does that really say about you. You would be doing it for all the wrong reasons.

The point of having hobbies is so you have other interests in life. Not just some parasite leeching onto a woman you like.

One of your interests might be Pokemon Go, but if passionate about it awesome...as long as it brings YOU happiness it's all that really matters.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Nobody gives a damn about what you do for fun. Women care about how much money you make, how handsome you are, how big of a d1ck you have. Invest into your career and your health.
Don't agree. I don't have much money, movie star looks or a big penis. I have no problem meeting and keeping women. I do agree with investing in my health.
 
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