Ringleader41
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Is that a really an ioi. Also, girls get let down if you dont approach. I had a girl bvtch at me because I didnt approach her at some tailgate.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
So at parties I noticed most the girls I talked to where stroking their hair
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I used to think that it was but I doubt it nowadays and consider it just to be a nervous habit. I've run into plenty of girls who do that and got nowhere with them, meanwhile I've gotten dates out of others who don't do it. The one I've been dating for a few months now never plays with her hair, not even when we first met.Ringleader41 said:
Anyhow you have to look for multiple indicators happening together, just one is rather meaningless. Like if you're sitting down talking while she's smiling, looking you in the eye, and got her feet pointed towards you while playing with her hair? Then you have an IoI.
Atom Smasher
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I definitely think the hair stroking is an ioi, but I have serious doubts about foot pointing.
Simple smiling is a huge ioi. Add to that the hair thing and you're in.
I also think that pupil dilation is a crock. How the heck can that be a reliable indicator when lighting, alcohol, and the position of Pluto all affect that?
Zerro is right, just one is not enough. Two or more in combo is very accurate.
Simple smiling is a huge ioi. Add to that the hair thing and you're in.
I also think that pupil dilation is a crock. How the heck can that be a reliable indicator when lighting, alcohol, and the position of Pluto all affect that?
Zerro is right, just one is not enough. Two or more in combo is very accurate.
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- Proximity (how close she keeps herself to you) 7
- Orientation (where her chest and feets are pointing, if at you or the door) 6
- Verbal variety (quantity and quality of communication coming out of her) 6
- Facial expressions (smiles, blinks and many others especially at jokes) 7
- Accidental touchs (which are not if she touchs you) 9
- Playfully provocations 7
- Eye contact while talked to 7
- Checking the crew for you if separated 8
The more of this the better but also that number gives some of those a highter importance than others.
You will realize that uninterested girls show none of those, those signs if understood and considered can make the difference between getting a ONS/dating or a useless number.
- Orientation (where her chest and feets are pointing, if at you or the door) 6
- Verbal variety (quantity and quality of communication coming out of her) 6
- Facial expressions (smiles, blinks and many others especially at jokes) 7
- Accidental touchs (which are not if she touchs you) 9
- Playfully provocations 7
- Eye contact while talked to 7
- Checking the crew for you if separated 8
The more of this the better but also that number gives some of those a highter importance than others.
You will realize that uninterested girls show none of those, those signs if understood and considered can make the difference between getting a ONS/dating or a useless number.
Foot orientation is one that most guys overlook. If they're pointed in a direction she'd take to get away from you then it's a sign that she's ready to ditch you at any moment. If they're pointed towards you (or in a direction where she can't go, like into the bar in front of her) then she's planning to stay there with you for a while.Atom Smasher said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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It means flirting, or vexation, exasperation. Take your pick - running hands through the hair is commonly associated with flirting, and sometimes it is, although given different supporting signals, running hands through the hair can indicate exasperation or upset. Pay attention to her facial expression as she strokes her hair.
Dude, every girl I talk to plays with their hair. Back when I was married I figured that meant they all wanted to ride the baloney pony. I was sure of it.
Later I learned girls play with their hair all the time. When talking to other girls, when fooling around on their phones, when talking to their parents.
The best indicator of interest is them giving you their number and bumping fuzz with you. Don't sit their and marinate on it, act.
Later I learned girls play with their hair all the time. When talking to other girls, when fooling around on their phones, when talking to their parents.
The best indicator of interest is them giving you their number and bumping fuzz with you. Don't sit their and marinate on it, act.
SamTheHobit
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If they're stroking your d!ck that's probably an ioi.
You are FAR, FAR better off just assuming EVERYTHING she does is an ioi. Did she fart? That means she's comfortable & into yoy. Did she stand up - ioi did she sit? Ioi did she not run away screaming? Ioi
If you assume she's into you you have a 65% greater chance that she will be...
If you assume she's into you you have a 65% greater chance that she will be...
TillTheEndOfTime
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I strongly disagree with hair playing being an IOI. That's so high school. I know many girls who play with their hair habitually.
Use more meaningful interactions to determine interest. For example, does she carry a conversation? Does she seem to want to get to know you? etc
Use more meaningful interactions to determine interest. For example, does she carry a conversation? Does she seem to want to get to know you? etc
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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I've always thought that a girl playing with her hair is just a nervous habit. It would indicate some social anxiety, which may or may not be caused by her being nervous because she's attracted to you.
On the other hand, if she's doing it in a seductive manner, then she's probably doing it on purpose to either send you a message or mess with you. A lot of girls know that playing with their hair is supposed to mean attraction, so they do it on purpose as part of their "game". It's a low risk flirting tactic.
So if she's doing it on purpose, it's probably an IOI.
If she's doing it spontaneously, it may or may not be.
On the other hand, if she's doing it in a seductive manner, then she's probably doing it on purpose to either send you a message or mess with you. A lot of girls know that playing with their hair is supposed to mean attraction, so they do it on purpose as part of their "game". It's a low risk flirting tactic.
So if she's doing it on purpose, it's probably an IOI.
If she's doing it spontaneously, it may or may not be.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
In all my interactions I've noticed the hair-playing thing was a definite sign of attraction (self grooming). I've yet to see a woman who is turned off by me play with her hair. I would think she would subconsciously avoid calling attention to her femininity.
I'll have to look around a little more and study this. I'm also going to look into the foot pointing, which should be a pleasant study since I like feet. It's odd that I've never noticed this before, but then again, here I am on the SS forums, so I have a lot to learn just like everybody else!
I'll have to look around a little more and study this. I'm also going to look into the foot pointing, which should be a pleasant study since I like feet. It's odd that I've never noticed this before, but then again, here I am on the SS forums, so I have a lot to learn just like everybody else!