SO annoyed (little sister present at parties/adult functions)

[Forty0ztoFreedom]

WTF . . Need to vent a little.

My sister is really anti-social. So I am conflicted in wanting to see her get out more but not at MY parties or parties I am going to. It totally changes the entire fvcking element for me . . I need to be the asexual big brother, not the aspiring DJ I want to be.

I threw a big Halloween party with friends on Friday at a bar. And my brother's wife gets my little sister to go . . who doesn't want to go, BTW. But she ends up going and sitting there all night, and of course I've gotta check on her and ask if she's having fun or needs anything and . . ugh. I still had fun, and didn't let it get to me as much as possible, but it still changed the atmoshpere for me. Like a "Watch it, little sister is here" filter is put on everything.

So now what, I can't fvcking throw a big party anymore without my little sister there? And I feel like I have to feel guilty for feeling this way . . I'm sorry but I do not want my little fvcking sister around when I'm trying to get crazy. IS THAT SO WEIRD OF ME?

Of course my brother's wife doesn't get it cause she's got a little brother (ENTIRELY FVCKING DIFFERENT) and their whole family is strangely close. And my mother pushes it too because in her eyes, WTF do I care? I must just sit around and act like the innocent 11 year old boy she sees me as at these parties. Might as well have my kid sister tag along to my fvcking fruit-punch & hide-and-seek parties.

SO annoying. The worst part is I love hanging with my older brother and having him around but now wherever he goes, surely his wife will want my little sister to come along and its gonna go from a raging crazy party to a borderline innocent family function . . Why not just invite my Mom too?

I love my sister but I do not want her included in my social circle! What the hell do I do??

Any advice?

 

[piranha45]

I need to be the asexual big brother, not the aspiring DJ I want to be.

why???


my advice would be to stop caring and get over yourself. stop caring about your little sister's image of you, and stop caring about whether she's having fun at the parties or not. You can also tell your brother's wife about the situation. Is there any reason you can't do this, beyond personal vanity?

 

[mpimpin]

I know how you feel. I dealt with the little sister thing for years and unfortunately she's about to graduate and good chance she comes to my Uni too.

I've been getting better at dealing with it and a little alcohol helps. I think we've kinda switched places and she gets akward about it now

 

[Phyzzle]

If your sister is old enough to go to a bar, she is old enough to see THE ANIMAL UNLEASHED.

Besides, I don't think your brother can get too crazy with his wife standing there. Now that he's married, I don't think you guys can have big parties where you guys are doing body shots off of strippers. The wilder times will be without him.

 

[redspicyflag]

wow

same thing happens to me around any family member

:/

 

[BlakeW5]

wow

same thing happens to me around any family member

:/

Yep. You're definately not alone OP. I'm the same way with my immediate family. I feel weird letting them see that side of me.

For example, my family knows I smoke and drink yet I doubt I could ever let them see me do it. Not sure why really, it just feels awkward. In a way, it's like there's two of me, family-Blake and friend-Blake. Good thing my sister doesn't hang out in the same joints I do.