This story has apparently gone viral on other sites.
Read the story here. http://www.buzzfeed.com/robynwilder/a-man-emailed-his-wife-a-spreadsheet-that-logged-all-the-the
This dude has a poor sex life with his wife, and though we dont know his side of the story, Im highly certain hes brought it up with her before. I dont think an excel file was his first time bringing it up with her. He sends her a spreadsheet to highlight the frequency in which they have sex, and she posts it to reddit.
Of course what follows is to be expected. Most of the women find a way to blame the man, and the men back up the husband. Many of the women are giving the guy flack for daring to even document their sex life. But lets be real...we all know its not uncommon for a husband or wife who is unhappy with their sex life to have their concerns brushed aside when they bring it up. Ive read and heard many stories of an unsatisfied husband or wife bringing this stuff up, and nothing changing. Plus I really get the feeling that the women commenting on the story wouldnt have a problem with the spreadsheet if it was an unsatisfied wife who created it.
I for one feel that marriages are about continuing support of one another emotionally, mentally, and physically. The marriage will suffer if all of these needs arent met. Yet somehow, whenever a man has problems with a lack of sex, many women on those discussion-type sites will find a way to blame that guy. I never see the same treatment when a wife is dealing with a husband who barely wants sex.
Given the amount of threads on the internet, highlighting the horrible sex lives some marriages have (months without sex, twice a year even) its a wonder to me that people still find ways to fault a spouse for daring to crave intimacy from their partner. I get sick of reading or hearing "marriage isnt just about sex". Well jee golly....youll never hear "marriage isnt just about emotional support" or "marriage isnt just about mental connection".
Somehow sexual intimacy, in many peoples minds, is given less importance as something to keep a relationship solid. Ive said it before and Ill say it again...a lack of physical intimacy is a reason to divorce. Same goes for a lack of emotional support, or a lack of mental connection. If you just dont click with your partner, sometimes it cant be fixed and you both have to find someone better for you.
I just get so sick and tired of seeing men (and women) shamed for wanting to feel desired and close to their partner. I actually have a female friend whos likely to go back out into the dating world, because the guy shes currently seeing doesnt make an effort to have sex with her much anymore. And she has broached the subject with him. Sometimes you just have to move on when things arent working.
Discuss
Read the story here. http://www.buzzfeed.com/robynwilder/a-man-emailed-his-wife-a-spreadsheet-that-logged-all-the-the
This dude has a poor sex life with his wife, and though we dont know his side of the story, Im highly certain hes brought it up with her before. I dont think an excel file was his first time bringing it up with her. He sends her a spreadsheet to highlight the frequency in which they have sex, and she posts it to reddit.
Of course what follows is to be expected. Most of the women find a way to blame the man, and the men back up the husband. Many of the women are giving the guy flack for daring to even document their sex life. But lets be real...we all know its not uncommon for a husband or wife who is unhappy with their sex life to have their concerns brushed aside when they bring it up. Ive read and heard many stories of an unsatisfied husband or wife bringing this stuff up, and nothing changing. Plus I really get the feeling that the women commenting on the story wouldnt have a problem with the spreadsheet if it was an unsatisfied wife who created it.
I for one feel that marriages are about continuing support of one another emotionally, mentally, and physically. The marriage will suffer if all of these needs arent met. Yet somehow, whenever a man has problems with a lack of sex, many women on those discussion-type sites will find a way to blame that guy. I never see the same treatment when a wife is dealing with a husband who barely wants sex.
Given the amount of threads on the internet, highlighting the horrible sex lives some marriages have (months without sex, twice a year even) its a wonder to me that people still find ways to fault a spouse for daring to crave intimacy from their partner. I get sick of reading or hearing "marriage isnt just about sex". Well jee golly....youll never hear "marriage isnt just about emotional support" or "marriage isnt just about mental connection".
Somehow sexual intimacy, in many peoples minds, is given less importance as something to keep a relationship solid. Ive said it before and Ill say it again...a lack of physical intimacy is a reason to divorce. Same goes for a lack of emotional support, or a lack of mental connection. If you just dont click with your partner, sometimes it cant be fixed and you both have to find someone better for you.
I just get so sick and tired of seeing men (and women) shamed for wanting to feel desired and close to their partner. I actually have a female friend whos likely to go back out into the dating world, because the guy shes currently seeing doesnt make an effort to have sex with her much anymore. And she has broached the subject with him. Sometimes you just have to move on when things arent working.
Discuss
