"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Snooped Into Her Email...

JonJack

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Once you start snooping, all that decency, honesty and whatever goes right out the window. Even though she might not find out that you were snooping around, you know what you did and the question is will you be able to live with it.

Sad thing is that most people can live with this if they don't get caught. Kinda like criminals who don't want to go to prison. You know the potential consequences of your actions but you do not want to face them.

If you don't want to lose your dignity or whatever, don't go doing stupid shyt that throws it away. Be smarter than that. Never think you'll always get away with everything. For when the time comes that you are caught, I doubt you'll be able to find your balls and face it like a man.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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italostud

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I don't see what all the fuss is about. Sometimes you have to do some reconnaisance. It sounds like some of you guys are just going to go through life taking everyone's word at face value.

Here's a wake-up call: People are f*cking liars!

It's the way we're built. You see little children lie when they're like 4 years old. Humans are made to lie when it will benefit them, without regard for others.

Anyways, Doing a little snooping isn't so bad, just make sure you don't get caught, and make sure you're doing it for the right reasons. If you're just very paranoid, get some medication. If you have a reason to be suspicious, by all means, do a little investigating.
 

charolastra

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Thanks italostud!

There's no need for me to snoop anymore... It's over! I only snooped once and the evidence was there. She may assume I snooped...but there's no proof. I think she threw at me (by email) to see what my reaction was. I didn't react, never replied.

I'm moving on although I feel anger at times... Honestly, I wish she called one day after Mr. Buck$ dumps her. Not to get back with her, but to be able to throw my last card! I realize though this moment may never come...and in due time, I may not feel this anger anymore.

Rene
 
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